and is going to make SURE my husband has a very very upsetting time over the next few days. It seems if he is upset he goes and moves the fruit bars I like to the door of the freezer, where they melt. NOTHING can be stored on the door of the freezer because items there do not stay frozen. I had a fit last week and insisted husband defrost the freezer. He swore to me he did it. I finally got to the point I could move with-o puking and he has defrosted ONE shelf. The others are caked with ice over 2 inches thick. He also told me he had asked my parents to borrow a lawn mower because our broke. I found out that he has not spoken to either of them, or to Wiz about it. He is at the store right now. My headache is back full force, which was why I wanted the popsicle (Edy's lime fruit bars help when my stomach is upset and are OFTEN the only thing besides crackers and coke that will stay down when I get a long term headache like this one.) In SPITE of, or because of, the headache, I am going to pitch a royal FIT. He IS going to borrow several coolers and a lawn mower from my family. If he won't call my parents he can dang well call his father and drive the hour to his house to borrow coolers. Won't be able to borrow a lawn mower so he will get to use scissors (NOT joking here) to mow our 3//4 acre lot. HIS CHOICE. husband is not working and is spending his days playing games on facebook and sleeping. I KNOW depression is a problem, but I have done the patient, babying routine, the talks, and even giving him chores like I was his mother. NOW he can deal with angry me. HE pushed until I gave him chores. Then he didn't do them - saying he would do them the next day. Then he bought the meat so that I would get sidetracked and he would be able to say he "can't" defrost the freezer because all the meat will go bad. To H*** with this. I am sick of the stupidity. He can dam well either use some common sense, or at the least do the very minor things I ask, or I can give him some MAJOR things to do. And I WILL. I really do NOT think asking to have my popsicles kept on a shelf instead of on the door of the freezer is a big thing, but apparently it is. OR he would rather have them melt than say he is upset about something. WHich is probably the case. He almost NEVER will say something bothers him. He just goes and ruins something small by doing something he knows the person has asked the family not to do. I think that IS the definition of passive aggressive, isn't it? He will not admit to doing it on purpose but it happens to way too many things that belong to whichever person he is angry at. The stupid thing is that ALL he has to do 99.9% of the time is to say that he is upset at something and I will explain why I did it, and work to find another way to handle it if I cannot stop doing it or change it right away. I rarely have a problem with this. RARELY. even KNOWING this he STILL does this koi rather than just TELL me. If you hear fireworks coming from Oklahoma, it is just me lighting the rockets I shoved into an orifice. Why is it that he can NOT remember "If Momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy." or "Happy Wife, Happy Life"?? They sure seem easy to remember.