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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 608825" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>IAD, I'm sorry. I do know how difficult this is. I do think your response is another level of the detachment process, you're not handling every single thing for him in the hopes that you can avoid a disaster or wherever his choices lead him. Your response was a good one. Although I understand not without angst too.</p><p></p><p>I agree with MWM, stay focused on yourself now. He is making his way through his own life. I like your response, "what were you thinking I could do for you?" As I systematically stopped responding to my daughter in the old way, one step at a time, she stopped involving me in every aspect of her life. It took time. It was like a re-training program............I can see that in retrospect better because as I was going through it, it was emotional and difficult.............but like you, I just kept my responses neutral and consistent. I did not respond to the drama nor the requests............now there is no drama, there are no requests. </p><p></p><p>None of this is easy IAD. But it does get easier. You've provided him with all the tools necessary for his possible evolution out..............but he has to take them and make something out of them. Hang in there. One step at a time. Sending big hugs and sincere wishes that in the midst of all of this, you find peace.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 608825, member: 13542"] IAD, I'm sorry. I do know how difficult this is. I do think your response is another level of the detachment process, you're not handling every single thing for him in the hopes that you can avoid a disaster or wherever his choices lead him. Your response was a good one. Although I understand not without angst too. I agree with MWM, stay focused on yourself now. He is making his way through his own life. I like your response, "what were you thinking I could do for you?" As I systematically stopped responding to my daughter in the old way, one step at a time, she stopped involving me in every aspect of her life. It took time. It was like a re-training program............I can see that in retrospect better because as I was going through it, it was emotional and difficult.............but like you, I just kept my responses neutral and consistent. I did not respond to the drama nor the requests............now there is no drama, there are no requests. None of this is easy IAD. But it does get easier. You've provided him with all the tools necessary for his possible evolution out..............but he has to take them and make something out of them. Hang in there. One step at a time. Sending big hugs and sincere wishes that in the midst of all of this, you find peace. [/QUOTE]
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