Brokenhearted and Worried,
I am in your same boat! After 4 years with a very well known and well respected behavioral therapist, we got a diagnosis of Conduct Disorder for our almost 12 year old son yesterday. I have been in a haze ever since. I want to believe this is not possible, but I have to tell you his symptoms match the classic symptoms of CD.
I live in Dallas and was given the name of a CD "expert" here locally, but I only left a message for him today and have not heard back. I will let you know what he tells me. We have been told our son needs a Residential Treatment Center and I am starting to agree. He did not make it in public school and is about to be "asked to leave" another private school within the next few weeks.
His behavior has escalated the past year and he is now staying with his parental grandparents, as we worried about our daughter's safety. I have been researching CD for over 24 hours straight now and although it is not a common diagnosis, it does seem to be real. We have done all the right things, spent thousands on treatment facilities and doctors and testing and here we are. I am not willing to discount this diagnosis so quickly because his symptoms fit the bill. I want desperately for my son to be ok and not have this label, but I believe we have to be realistic. When numerous docs and specialists tell you your child is sick, one has to start coping with the reality of it.
This site is helping me already, as I meet others who feel my pain. I am no longer alone. Perhaps we can stay in touch and compare our stories? Keep praying and take it one day at a time. I am just going one hour at a time right now. Did I mention I am 7 1/2 mos pregnant? My goal is to keep this baby safe until full term (despite my stress), while I simultaneously find the right place and plan for my precious son. And protect my marriage and my daughter...Lord I wish I could have a glass of wine right now!
Hang in there!
627666 in Dallas