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<blockquote data-quote="Lulu" data-source="post: 141570" data-attributes="member: 4493"><p>Totoro, I"m so sorry things got out of hand. I so understand having to run the errands, having a game plan, an emergency plan, etc. And then to see it fall apart regardless of your best, most compassionate and thoughtful efforts. </p><p></p><p>It IS hard to watch our kids need to hurt themselves. For the past six or so months, the way my 4.8yo difficult child brings closure to a tantrum is to bite his hand or arm long and hard enough to leave deep marks and, one assumes, cause pain. That pain then makes him weep in a totally different way and--I suppose--gets the brain onto another track: pain response. After he spends some time in that mode, he comes back to some sort of rationality.</p><p></p><p>Unfortunately, I have a similar response to extreme anxiety and frustration, but fortunately, it is all in my head: I envision doing violent, painful things to myself. This refocuses me, for a while, anyway. I don't understand why it has always been merely a visual thing for me, but I am thankful I don't have to enact it.</p><p></p><p>I sure wish I knew how to stop our kids from having to hurt themselves. ((HUGS))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lulu, post: 141570, member: 4493"] Totoro, I"m so sorry things got out of hand. I so understand having to run the errands, having a game plan, an emergency plan, etc. And then to see it fall apart regardless of your best, most compassionate and thoughtful efforts. It IS hard to watch our kids need to hurt themselves. For the past six or so months, the way my 4.8yo difficult child brings closure to a tantrum is to bite his hand or arm long and hard enough to leave deep marks and, one assumes, cause pain. That pain then makes him weep in a totally different way and--I suppose--gets the brain onto another track: pain response. After he spends some time in that mode, he comes back to some sort of rationality. Unfortunately, I have a similar response to extreme anxiety and frustration, but fortunately, it is all in my head: I envision doing violent, painful things to myself. This refocuses me, for a while, anyway. I don't understand why it has always been merely a visual thing for me, but I am thankful I don't have to enact it. I sure wish I knew how to stop our kids from having to hurt themselves. ((HUGS)) [/QUOTE]
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