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<blockquote data-quote="svengandhi" data-source="post: 376672" data-attributes="member: 3493"><p>My difficult child had 4 ear surgeries before the age of 4. He was 95% unintelligible when he entered K. His teacher at first recommended that we hold him back, esoecially because his birthday (tomorrow!) made him one of the youngest in his grade. He was suspended several times in 1st grade and in second grade. In second grade, the SD psychiatric said he was on the way to "anti social personality disorder" and that he was ODD.</p><p></p><p>In 3rd grade, he was accused of assaulting his (male) teacher by kicking him in the ankle. The principal refused to let us see the teacher's foot before suspending him for a week. She also refuse to let him be in the gifted class. We owned another home in the SD so we picked him up and moved him to the other school.</p><p></p><p>We still had issues at the new school but decided not to sweat the small stuff. We didn't care about HW and neither did the school as long as he behaved and interacted with other people (he was the type of kid who just shut down and would not deal with anyone he didn't like). We opted not to put him in gifted at that point.</p><p></p><p>When he went into middle school, his math/science teacher was a total mismatch for him and was abusive to my son, physically and verbally. A new psychiatric evaluation indicated "Atypical personality disorder" and faulted us for not putting him on medications, even though there were none that had ever been prescribed, other than a trial of Ritalin which was ended when even the school psychiatric at the first school realized he is NOT ADD. We finally under threat of having the teacher arrested, were able to have his classes changed. He went into honors math in grade 7. He had a terrible science teacher in grade 7, who taught everything in sports metaphors (difficult child hates sports and totally tuned out to him). I had to threaten legal action to get him into honors science in grade 8. The principal told him he'd never pass. He got a 98 on the state test. He failed English all three years and barely passed social studies (he was one of 2 kids in the class of 400 who earned a perfect score on the state test, however).</p><p></p><p>HS has been somewhat better. He is doing well in English, even earned an A+ second semester in 10th grade. It is a mixed bag, however, since he failed foreign lang due to not doing any HW all year. He barely passed his AP European history course because he refused to write papers, but he scored a 5 on the AP test and a 750 on the SAT 2. He is one of only 40 kids left in honors math and about 60 left in honors science.</p><p></p><p>As we look forward to junior year, difficult child has friends, is on his way to being an Eagle Scout and already has next summer's job at scout camp lined up (they loved him there this year), he's taking his learner's permit test tomorrow, doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't do drugs and is looking forward to college. He's promised to study for the PSAT even though he didn't study for the AP test. He even made it all the way to the second and final round of contestant selection for HS Jeopardy a while ago. He's on the chess team and is hoping to advance a seat or two this year.</p><p></p><p>I think the saving grace for difficult child was Boy Scouts and maturity, plus the realization that his extreme intelligence pretty much allows him to accomplish what he wants without the fits and tantrums and shutdowns of his younger years. His verbal and academic skills protect him and earn him respect from his peers that he no longer cares to sacrifice by indulging in bad behavior. I only wish that he were not the Leona Helmsley of HW.</p><p></p><p>He's not done yet, but I think he's pretty much a success story so far. Best is that he hasn't discovered girls yet!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="svengandhi, post: 376672, member: 3493"] My difficult child had 4 ear surgeries before the age of 4. He was 95% unintelligible when he entered K. His teacher at first recommended that we hold him back, esoecially because his birthday (tomorrow!) made him one of the youngest in his grade. He was suspended several times in 1st grade and in second grade. In second grade, the SD psychiatric said he was on the way to "anti social personality disorder" and that he was ODD. In 3rd grade, he was accused of assaulting his (male) teacher by kicking him in the ankle. The principal refused to let us see the teacher's foot before suspending him for a week. She also refuse to let him be in the gifted class. We owned another home in the SD so we picked him up and moved him to the other school. We still had issues at the new school but decided not to sweat the small stuff. We didn't care about HW and neither did the school as long as he behaved and interacted with other people (he was the type of kid who just shut down and would not deal with anyone he didn't like). We opted not to put him in gifted at that point. When he went into middle school, his math/science teacher was a total mismatch for him and was abusive to my son, physically and verbally. A new psychiatric evaluation indicated "Atypical personality disorder" and faulted us for not putting him on medications, even though there were none that had ever been prescribed, other than a trial of Ritalin which was ended when even the school psychiatric at the first school realized he is NOT ADD. We finally under threat of having the teacher arrested, were able to have his classes changed. He went into honors math in grade 7. He had a terrible science teacher in grade 7, who taught everything in sports metaphors (difficult child hates sports and totally tuned out to him). I had to threaten legal action to get him into honors science in grade 8. The principal told him he'd never pass. He got a 98 on the state test. He failed English all three years and barely passed social studies (he was one of 2 kids in the class of 400 who earned a perfect score on the state test, however). HS has been somewhat better. He is doing well in English, even earned an A+ second semester in 10th grade. It is a mixed bag, however, since he failed foreign lang due to not doing any HW all year. He barely passed his AP European history course because he refused to write papers, but he scored a 5 on the AP test and a 750 on the SAT 2. He is one of only 40 kids left in honors math and about 60 left in honors science. As we look forward to junior year, difficult child has friends, is on his way to being an Eagle Scout and already has next summer's job at scout camp lined up (they loved him there this year), he's taking his learner's permit test tomorrow, doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't do drugs and is looking forward to college. He's promised to study for the PSAT even though he didn't study for the AP test. He even made it all the way to the second and final round of contestant selection for HS Jeopardy a while ago. He's on the chess team and is hoping to advance a seat or two this year. I think the saving grace for difficult child was Boy Scouts and maturity, plus the realization that his extreme intelligence pretty much allows him to accomplish what he wants without the fits and tantrums and shutdowns of his younger years. His verbal and academic skills protect him and earn him respect from his peers that he no longer cares to sacrifice by indulging in bad behavior. I only wish that he were not the Leona Helmsley of HW. He's not done yet, but I think he's pretty much a success story so far. Best is that he hasn't discovered girls yet! [/QUOTE]
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