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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 135383"><p>I think Suz made good points...thoughts in my "head" as well.</p><p>I would like to add some general ideas.</p><p> </p><p>I think when we reply to posts it is best to avoid being critical. To try to put "qualifiers" in responses. This might be using the words "in my opinion," or the way it worked in our family or give an example. Often times the entire story is not being told and one really can't say for sure what is best. Most of us have been through a lot and have "oversensitive" moments and don't need to feel judged or criticized.</p><p> </p><p>In addition, I think it probably is best to avoid putting overly personal info about our difficult children...one can "temper" things a little. You always have the option of deleting a few days a later as well. Remember, that these are your "cyber" friends. You might want to think of us as almost "adjunct" friends, 'cause I really can't think of another word to accurately describe this new phenomenon (sp?). Ideally, it is best to have real "live" family and friends as your first line of defense and the group here as back up. Be sure to ask specific questions and most people should be helpful and kind. If they are not...they probably have difficult child tendencies themselves that need to be addressed OR they are experiencing a bad moment.</p><p> </p><p>If you are really rushed, but it is a subject you know a good deal about...I don't think there is anything wrong with putting a short reply and perhaps saying..."I'm really rushing today, but wanted to say that I think it's a great idea that you...., etc."</p><p> </p><p>And, I do think it is a GREAT idea to comment on anything positive going on and to offer uplifting/encouraging support.</p><p> </p><p>This, in my humble opinion, are what friends are for! <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/redface.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":redface:" title="redface :redface:" data-shortname=":redface:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 135383"] I think Suz made good points...thoughts in my "head" as well. I would like to add some general ideas. I think when we reply to posts it is best to avoid being critical. To try to put "qualifiers" in responses. This might be using the words "in my opinion," or the way it worked in our family or give an example. Often times the entire story is not being told and one really can't say for sure what is best. Most of us have been through a lot and have "oversensitive" moments and don't need to feel judged or criticized. In addition, I think it probably is best to avoid putting overly personal info about our difficult children...one can "temper" things a little. You always have the option of deleting a few days a later as well. Remember, that these are your "cyber" friends. You might want to think of us as almost "adjunct" friends, 'cause I really can't think of another word to accurately describe this new phenomenon (sp?). Ideally, it is best to have real "live" family and friends as your first line of defense and the group here as back up. Be sure to ask specific questions and most people should be helpful and kind. If they are not...they probably have difficult child tendencies themselves that need to be addressed OR they are experiencing a bad moment. If you are really rushed, but it is a subject you know a good deal about...I don't think there is anything wrong with putting a short reply and perhaps saying..."I'm really rushing today, but wanted to say that I think it's a great idea that you...., etc." And, I do think it is a GREAT idea to comment on anything positive going on and to offer uplifting/encouraging support. This, in my humble opinion, are what friends are for! :blushing2: [/QUOTE]
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