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Probably was just a matter of time....
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<blockquote data-quote="aninom" data-source="post: 322453" data-attributes="member: 8513"><p>Hi Daisy,</p><p> </p><p>I know how much it hurts when year after year goes by and nothing seems to change, that disappointment. But it sounds like you've at least made some progress. One takes what one can get, right? Remember it's not down to you, it's down to HER - there's nothing to do, so why waste energy worrying over a situation you ultimately have little control over? Don't do that to yourself!</p><p> </p><p>My difficult child (sister) is the same way: she can't get anything from you? You said something which implied her not being a bundle of sunshine? You cease to exist. Just like that.</p><p> </p><p>But it always passes, if only when she needs something again, and not always money either (by the way, congrats on refusing to financially enable your difficult child anymore! we still haven't gotten anywhere near that point, and it needs to be done) - next time she will need to vent, next time something comes up in her life she actually doesn't know how to handle? Mom is the first person she goes to, regardless of how cold her communications had been previously. I guess what I'm trying to say is that she - your difficult child - probably won't be cold forever, and whenever she thaws that little bit, there is always the hope of a tiny, tiny step towards improvement.</p><p> </p><p>If nothing else, thank god chocolate milk exists! Hugs to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="aninom, post: 322453, member: 8513"] Hi Daisy, I know how much it hurts when year after year goes by and nothing seems to change, that disappointment. But it sounds like you've at least made some progress. One takes what one can get, right? Remember it's not down to you, it's down to HER - there's nothing to do, so why waste energy worrying over a situation you ultimately have little control over? Don't do that to yourself! My difficult child (sister) is the same way: she can't get anything from you? You said something which implied her not being a bundle of sunshine? You cease to exist. Just like that. But it always passes, if only when she needs something again, and not always money either (by the way, congrats on refusing to financially enable your difficult child anymore! we still haven't gotten anywhere near that point, and it needs to be done) - next time she will need to vent, next time something comes up in her life she actually doesn't know how to handle? Mom is the first person she goes to, regardless of how cold her communications had been previously. I guess what I'm trying to say is that she - your difficult child - probably won't be cold forever, and whenever she thaws that little bit, there is always the hope of a tiny, tiny step towards improvement. If nothing else, thank god chocolate milk exists! Hugs to you. [/QUOTE]
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