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<blockquote data-quote="4timmy" data-source="post: 408569" data-attributes="member: 6553"><p>My difficult child was a lot like your little guy when he was a baby. Our pediatrician recommended a book on dealing with difficult children, I think it was a R. Dobson book which if I remember correctly incorporates religion in the methods used to discipline children. We tried traditional discipline with our son, but it just DID NOT work. When difficult child was 3, our pediatrician told us "when he reaches Kindergarten, they will tell you that he has ADHD, so you might want to consider holding him back until he is 6." The pediatrician we had just thought he was a child with a difficult, stubborn, disposition. I'm not sure why we were never advised to take it any further than that.</p><p></p><p>Eventually we just stopped taking him anywhere because it was just pure misery. My husband and I had to take turns being the "designated parent" that would take him out to the car when difficult child threw a temper tantrum in a public place because there was just nothing else we could do. Like I said, that got really old so we just stopped going out to eat and I did all of the shopping alone. </p><p></p><p>In preschool, they told me that difficult child was overly sensitive and always wanted to play by himself. He got in trouble a few times, but we AGAIN, really thought this was all normal. In Kindergarten we were told that he always sat in the back, couldn't sit still, and never appeared to be listening to anything they were saying. However, at times they would ask him questions and he was always right there with them even it it looked like he wasn't. At home he was just out of control. He could never focus on one activity at a time, he was destructive, and would even just sit in his room and urinate because he didn't want to stop whatever he was doing to go to the bathroom, he'd cry because a shirt wasn't comfortable and we'd find his shirts either all cut up in his closet or the tag cut out. I had to remove all tags on his clothes. </p><p></p><p>It wasn't until 3rd grade that our family physician told us he was ADHD and ODD and he began taking medication (Ritalin) which I still can't say ever really worked. 4th grade was a complete and utter NIGHTMARE. This is the year he had what I call "Old-School" teachers that were very strict in there methods of discipline. It wasn't even 2 weeks into the school year when I got a call from the teacher insisting that he be evaluated and put on an IEP (Individual Education Plan). </p><p></p><p>Obviously, I could go on and on here, but I guess my advice to you is to not just sit idle. Learn as much as you can now. It wasn't until I joined this forum that I even began to realize that this stuff with difficult child was not going away. Some days I still don't do well to accept the reality of it. Definitely do the neuropsychologist evaluation. This is the first thing this forum advised me to do as well and I am glad I did. My difficult child was 10 when I took him and he came out with a Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) (not otherwise specified) diagnosis with characteristics of Autism (High Functioning) and Asbergers. He also displayed symptons of Childhood Bi-Polar and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). </p><p></p><p>difficult child is 12 now and was placed in an "Emotionally Disabled" program in our school district but it took 10 years to get to this diagnosis. The earlier you can find out, the earlier you can begin working to get the help he needs. The Explosive Child is an excellent book and I still use these methods.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="4timmy, post: 408569, member: 6553"] My difficult child was a lot like your little guy when he was a baby. Our pediatrician recommended a book on dealing with difficult children, I think it was a R. Dobson book which if I remember correctly incorporates religion in the methods used to discipline children. We tried traditional discipline with our son, but it just DID NOT work. When difficult child was 3, our pediatrician told us "when he reaches Kindergarten, they will tell you that he has ADHD, so you might want to consider holding him back until he is 6." The pediatrician we had just thought he was a child with a difficult, stubborn, disposition. I'm not sure why we were never advised to take it any further than that. Eventually we just stopped taking him anywhere because it was just pure misery. My husband and I had to take turns being the "designated parent" that would take him out to the car when difficult child threw a temper tantrum in a public place because there was just nothing else we could do. Like I said, that got really old so we just stopped going out to eat and I did all of the shopping alone. In preschool, they told me that difficult child was overly sensitive and always wanted to play by himself. He got in trouble a few times, but we AGAIN, really thought this was all normal. In Kindergarten we were told that he always sat in the back, couldn't sit still, and never appeared to be listening to anything they were saying. However, at times they would ask him questions and he was always right there with them even it it looked like he wasn't. At home he was just out of control. He could never focus on one activity at a time, he was destructive, and would even just sit in his room and urinate because he didn't want to stop whatever he was doing to go to the bathroom, he'd cry because a shirt wasn't comfortable and we'd find his shirts either all cut up in his closet or the tag cut out. I had to remove all tags on his clothes. It wasn't until 3rd grade that our family physician told us he was ADHD and ODD and he began taking medication (Ritalin) which I still can't say ever really worked. 4th grade was a complete and utter NIGHTMARE. This is the year he had what I call "Old-School" teachers that were very strict in there methods of discipline. It wasn't even 2 weeks into the school year when I got a call from the teacher insisting that he be evaluated and put on an IEP (Individual Education Plan). Obviously, I could go on and on here, but I guess my advice to you is to not just sit idle. Learn as much as you can now. It wasn't until I joined this forum that I even began to realize that this stuff with difficult child was not going away. Some days I still don't do well to accept the reality of it. Definitely do the neuropsychologist evaluation. This is the first thing this forum advised me to do as well and I am glad I did. My difficult child was 10 when I took him and he came out with a Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) (not otherwise specified) diagnosis with characteristics of Autism (High Functioning) and Asbergers. He also displayed symptons of Childhood Bi-Polar and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). difficult child is 12 now and was placed in an "Emotionally Disabled" program in our school district but it took 10 years to get to this diagnosis. The earlier you can find out, the earlier you can begin working to get the help he needs. The Explosive Child is an excellent book and I still use these methods. [/QUOTE]
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