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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 434539" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Perfect way to handle it. You're not avoiding or stuffing the emotions, but not allowing them to consume you either. Wonderful.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This is something I've found I have in common with other abuse victims whom I've met and talked to over the many years. It seems to be a survival mechanism learned via the abuse in order to deal with it and keep on living your life. Problems arise when the person compartmentalizes to the point where they either consciously or subconsciously won't allow themselves to deal with what's there.</p><p></p><p>This something I do with most crisis situations. It's like I place the crisis in a box........then when I can't handle it, it gets put over there in a corner and I go on doing every day stuff or happy things, then when I need to I take it out of the corner and deal with it. Currently doing that with katie. I can't speak for others, but it helps keep me sane. lol</p><p></p><p>You've done so well with this. You have much to be proud of. And the other victims have much to be proud of. You're right about your lil sis. At the moment she's following Mom's orders, but she's bright. You'll be reunited with her again.</p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 434539, member: 84"] Perfect way to handle it. You're not avoiding or stuffing the emotions, but not allowing them to consume you either. Wonderful. This is something I've found I have in common with other abuse victims whom I've met and talked to over the many years. It seems to be a survival mechanism learned via the abuse in order to deal with it and keep on living your life. Problems arise when the person compartmentalizes to the point where they either consciously or subconsciously won't allow themselves to deal with what's there. This something I do with most crisis situations. It's like I place the crisis in a box........then when I can't handle it, it gets put over there in a corner and I go on doing every day stuff or happy things, then when I need to I take it out of the corner and deal with it. Currently doing that with katie. I can't speak for others, but it helps keep me sane. lol You've done so well with this. You have much to be proud of. And the other victims have much to be proud of. You're right about your lil sis. At the moment she's following Mom's orders, but she's bright. You'll be reunited with her again. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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