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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 434587" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Haozi, on the cousin/sister thing, I completely agree. To me, I think of her as a new cousin and am looking forward to meeting all 3 of them this summer for a few hours together. IF she knows or finds out, and IF she reaches out to me, I'd be happy to respond in keeping with how she is feeling about it. If she doesn't know and/or never finds out but it becomes confirmed fact to me somehow, I'd never dream of saying a thing or treating her differently than her sisters, I wouldn't want to alert her to feeling closer to her than the other 2. If she knows or finds out and wants to disregard the information, that's okay too. After more family talk, I'm fairly certain that she is indeed my sister. I feel quite okay about it, the biggest thing I think about re: her, is how knowing her parentage might have affected her or could in the future if she doesn't know and learns the facts. I can't imagine. If she knows or learns about it, however she needs to cope is completely going to be respected by me. On the slim chance she knows or learns about it and is interested in a closer relationship and acknowledging our "sisterhood" I'd be very receptive. It is different from my baby sister though. With my baby sister, there was never doubt and I craved for her in my life in ways that made all the absent years not knowing her very sad for me and difficult. This woman is a entirely different kettle of fish so to speak. My heart does break for her mother because regardless of if it is true that this woman is my sister or not, there is no doubt that her mother was raped by my father. If she then went on to give birth to a child from that experience, for both of them I cannot put myself in their place. It's so difficult to picture without knowing what that would feel like. I do have more suspicion that she does know and has decided to act like all is "status quo". I could be wrong but some facts add alot of weight to the idea she may well be aware. I wouldn't blame her a wit for choosing to just keep living her regular life and not at all want to know other "sisters" etc.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 434587, member: 4264"] Haozi, on the cousin/sister thing, I completely agree. To me, I think of her as a new cousin and am looking forward to meeting all 3 of them this summer for a few hours together. IF she knows or finds out, and IF she reaches out to me, I'd be happy to respond in keeping with how she is feeling about it. If she doesn't know and/or never finds out but it becomes confirmed fact to me somehow, I'd never dream of saying a thing or treating her differently than her sisters, I wouldn't want to alert her to feeling closer to her than the other 2. If she knows or finds out and wants to disregard the information, that's okay too. After more family talk, I'm fairly certain that she is indeed my sister. I feel quite okay about it, the biggest thing I think about re: her, is how knowing her parentage might have affected her or could in the future if she doesn't know and learns the facts. I can't imagine. If she knows or learns about it, however she needs to cope is completely going to be respected by me. On the slim chance she knows or learns about it and is interested in a closer relationship and acknowledging our "sisterhood" I'd be very receptive. It is different from my baby sister though. With my baby sister, there was never doubt and I craved for her in my life in ways that made all the absent years not knowing her very sad for me and difficult. This woman is a entirely different kettle of fish so to speak. My heart does break for her mother because regardless of if it is true that this woman is my sister or not, there is no doubt that her mother was raped by my father. If she then went on to give birth to a child from that experience, for both of them I cannot put myself in their place. It's so difficult to picture without knowing what that would feel like. I do have more suspicion that she does know and has decided to act like all is "status quo". I could be wrong but some facts add alot of weight to the idea she may well be aware. I wouldn't blame her a wit for choosing to just keep living her regular life and not at all want to know other "sisters" etc. [/QUOTE]
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