JJJ
Active Member
Well, it was just one punch that was more emotionally hurtful than physically damaging.
The younger 3 have been doing really well playing at the park next to our house. Some friends of Piglet's came over and asked all 3 of them to come play tag. There were about 20 kids in a massive game of tag all over the park (ages 8-14), It went great for over an hour. Then we get the call from Piglet. Eeyore punched Tigger in the stomach, completely unprovoked. I run out there (in my sick sweats cause I'm still not feeling well and husband's shoes cause they were near the door).
After speaking with each of the kids, Piglet and Tigger went back to the game and I took Eeyore home. Essentially, the girls took one of the boy's hats and were playing keep away (teasing, the boy got it). Eeyore called me on his cell to tell on the girls and Tigger and Piglet were near him and Tigger kept talking so Eeyore punched him cause he wanted quiet. Tigger was upset but said that he was "always waiting for Eeyore to punch him, just like in my nightmare" (shades of PTSD from Kanga). I think it helped alot that Piglet immediately called me and said that Tigger didn't do anything and Eeyore just punched him. Having his way-cool sister stick up for him helped.
Eeyore said that it's okay for him to hit people because people punch him. Of course, when questioned, he is talking about two years ago when Kanga lived here and tried to get the neighborhood boys to attack her sibs.
Both boys just seem to expect abuse We did have a family visit with Kanga this weekend so that always brings those feelings to the forefront. Although I have to give her credit, she was appropriate during the visit although I may have missed something because Eeyore suddenly wanted the visit to end but that could have been his anxiety just overwhelming him.
The progress is that Eeyore did walk home on his own power. No one needed a restraint. Tigger shook it off and went back to playing. And Piglet felt strong enough to speak up! (In the past, she would have become mute for the rest of the day.)
The younger 3 have been doing really well playing at the park next to our house. Some friends of Piglet's came over and asked all 3 of them to come play tag. There were about 20 kids in a massive game of tag all over the park (ages 8-14), It went great for over an hour. Then we get the call from Piglet. Eeyore punched Tigger in the stomach, completely unprovoked. I run out there (in my sick sweats cause I'm still not feeling well and husband's shoes cause they were near the door).
After speaking with each of the kids, Piglet and Tigger went back to the game and I took Eeyore home. Essentially, the girls took one of the boy's hats and were playing keep away (teasing, the boy got it). Eeyore called me on his cell to tell on the girls and Tigger and Piglet were near him and Tigger kept talking so Eeyore punched him cause he wanted quiet. Tigger was upset but said that he was "always waiting for Eeyore to punch him, just like in my nightmare" (shades of PTSD from Kanga). I think it helped alot that Piglet immediately called me and said that Tigger didn't do anything and Eeyore just punched him. Having his way-cool sister stick up for him helped.
Eeyore said that it's okay for him to hit people because people punch him. Of course, when questioned, he is talking about two years ago when Kanga lived here and tried to get the neighborhood boys to attack her sibs.
Both boys just seem to expect abuse
We did have a family visit with Kanga this weekend so that always brings those feelings to the forefront. Although I have to give her credit, she was appropriate during the visit although I may have missed something because Eeyore suddenly wanted the visit to end but that could have been his anxiety just overwhelming him.The progress is that Eeyore did walk home on his own power. No one needed a restraint. Tigger shook it off and went back to playing. And Piglet felt strong enough to speak up! (In the past, she would have become mute for the rest of the day.)
