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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 287181" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Terry,</p><p></p><p>I looked at all the stuff I suggested and want to make sure I was clear. I am NOT saying you have to do all the stuff I suggested. I don't know which items fit better with your family and with easy child's particular nature. NOTHING is the right thing for every child, and usually what is right for one child in a family is not 100&#37; right for another child in that family, esp if there is an age gap between them that is more than just a year or so.</p><p></p><p>I thought if I put some different ideas out there that you would be able to figure out which ones were right and how to best make them fit for easy child. Make them fit so that she not only complies but eventually sees WHY it is important to the family for her to comply.</p><p></p><p>One of the reasons why I think the L&L books are great is because they stress NOT jumping in headfirst when your child is being difficult. In both the books and the seminar they stress making a plan and then going to your friends and to adult family members and saying: "Here is my plan to provide logical consequences for A. What suggestions do you have? What loopholes or problems do you see?" By doing this before you hand out consequences you can make sure that you don't paint yourself into a really bad corner.</p><p></p><p>Sorry if I came across as too harsh, or whatever. Hopefully this is a short-lived adjustment period that will be over ASAP.</p><p></p><p>Hugs!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 287181, member: 1233"] Terry, I looked at all the stuff I suggested and want to make sure I was clear. I am NOT saying you have to do all the stuff I suggested. I don't know which items fit better with your family and with easy child's particular nature. NOTHING is the right thing for every child, and usually what is right for one child in a family is not 100% right for another child in that family, esp if there is an age gap between them that is more than just a year or so. I thought if I put some different ideas out there that you would be able to figure out which ones were right and how to best make them fit for easy child. Make them fit so that she not only complies but eventually sees WHY it is important to the family for her to comply. One of the reasons why I think the L&L books are great is because they stress NOT jumping in headfirst when your child is being difficult. In both the books and the seminar they stress making a plan and then going to your friends and to adult family members and saying: "Here is my plan to provide logical consequences for A. What suggestions do you have? What loopholes or problems do you see?" By doing this before you hand out consequences you can make sure that you don't paint yourself into a really bad corner. Sorry if I came across as too harsh, or whatever. Hopefully this is a short-lived adjustment period that will be over ASAP. Hugs! [/QUOTE]
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