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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 469390" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I would get him motivated by starting to insist he make some grown up decisions, whether he likes it or not. Some kids do need that kick...and he's getting old enough where he should want some independence. First off, I'd give him a time limit for taking his GED. He will get exactly nowhere without one...not college, not a halfway decent job. My daughter homeschooled her last two years of high school (only it was a cirriculum with a diploma). Even so, she had to get her GED for Beauty School (which was at a tech college). I would also insist that he work part-time...doesn't matter where...to cover his own, say, cell phone/computer/driving bills. I am going to expect all of that from my now eighteen year old son when he graduates from high school, and he is on the autism spectrum. I still expect him to work...you can have DVR (Department of Vocational Rehab) work with your son to place him in a community job. </p><p></p><p>Your son has been home with you for a long time so he missed out seeing his peers grow up and talk about what they'd do in the future. in my opinion it is time to start to help him along his way. You are right that it's time for YOU to have a life too. Since he is functioning well now and will go to college if you tell him to go, I would actually drive him myself to get his GED then take him to tech school so that he can look around. Then maybe give him two months to decide what he wants to do. I do believe in deadlines. in my opinion it's not good for him or his motivation to spend a few more years at home, with nothing going on outside the house. Although I understand that you want HIM to make the decisions that are good for himself, he may not...that's what parents are for then. Can't wait ten years for him to decide to take the GED test!</p><p></p><p>Of course, this is JMO. Keep us posted!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 469390, member: 1550"] I would get him motivated by starting to insist he make some grown up decisions, whether he likes it or not. Some kids do need that kick...and he's getting old enough where he should want some independence. First off, I'd give him a time limit for taking his GED. He will get exactly nowhere without one...not college, not a halfway decent job. My daughter homeschooled her last two years of high school (only it was a cirriculum with a diploma). Even so, she had to get her GED for Beauty School (which was at a tech college). I would also insist that he work part-time...doesn't matter where...to cover his own, say, cell phone/computer/driving bills. I am going to expect all of that from my now eighteen year old son when he graduates from high school, and he is on the autism spectrum. I still expect him to work...you can have DVR (Department of Vocational Rehab) work with your son to place him in a community job. Your son has been home with you for a long time so he missed out seeing his peers grow up and talk about what they'd do in the future. in my opinion it is time to start to help him along his way. You are right that it's time for YOU to have a life too. Since he is functioning well now and will go to college if you tell him to go, I would actually drive him myself to get his GED then take him to tech school so that he can look around. Then maybe give him two months to decide what he wants to do. I do believe in deadlines. in my opinion it's not good for him or his motivation to spend a few more years at home, with nothing going on outside the house. Although I understand that you want HIM to make the decisions that are good for himself, he may not...that's what parents are for then. Can't wait ten years for him to decide to take the GED test! Of course, this is JMO. Keep us posted! [/QUOTE]
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