MuM_of_OCD_kiddo
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Alright - my turn to ask for help ...
My Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) kiddo is 18, was homeschooled since grade 3 and did well until he went into his major Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) phase 14-16. He's past the worst, recovered nicely Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and attitude wise, helps around the house and the business, is smart and mostly better on top of what is going on in the world than I am, but makes no effort to finish his "official" education or getting his GED. I am amazed at how much overall he knows; he reads well, is very computer literate, and writes fiction and hopes to be published some time. [Writes very, very well - in a genre that is not my cup of tea, but very well written + thought out and definitely comparable if not better than some of the stuff in print out there].
I have been really struggling financially these past 3 yrs with our home based business due to the economy. I am not getting any younger, and I've taken major financial setbacks since the economy took a dive - I need to make a push for getting caught up again, so I can actually have a retirement and not become a Walmart greeter when I am in my 70ies. I'm in the early stages of phasing down my current business into a part time buz, so I can go to school this coming spring/summer and get a new, somewhat related business off the ground afterwards. It is doable, and I feel condident that I have the knowhow to pull it off [not sure about the energy, but I will give it my best].
I need him to get up and get busy and have a life of his own. I want him to finish his education, get his GED, a job to either help pay the bills or get his own place and if he wants to - go to college. He is doing mostly a decent job helping out around here at home and with my buz - it is not that he is just lazing around and giving me grief, but I need him to get motivated to do more and get something going for his own self.
I could drag him to our local tech college and sign him in and try my best to "make him go", and he most likely would without too much of a struggle when he realizes he has no other options [procrastinator]. I do not want to "make him go" - - - I want for him to learn how to do for himself. I don't want to manage, push, and prod him along for the rest of my life. How do I help him grow up, get more confidence and get "out there"? I know that once he gets the confidence and a bit of experience, he will be fine - but how do I jumpstart him without triggering another major Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) phase???
Any suggestions are appreciated...
My Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) kiddo is 18, was homeschooled since grade 3 and did well until he went into his major Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) phase 14-16. He's past the worst, recovered nicely Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and attitude wise, helps around the house and the business, is smart and mostly better on top of what is going on in the world than I am, but makes no effort to finish his "official" education or getting his GED. I am amazed at how much overall he knows; he reads well, is very computer literate, and writes fiction and hopes to be published some time. [Writes very, very well - in a genre that is not my cup of tea, but very well written + thought out and definitely comparable if not better than some of the stuff in print out there].
I have been really struggling financially these past 3 yrs with our home based business due to the economy. I am not getting any younger, and I've taken major financial setbacks since the economy took a dive - I need to make a push for getting caught up again, so I can actually have a retirement and not become a Walmart greeter when I am in my 70ies. I'm in the early stages of phasing down my current business into a part time buz, so I can go to school this coming spring/summer and get a new, somewhat related business off the ground afterwards. It is doable, and I feel condident that I have the knowhow to pull it off [not sure about the energy, but I will give it my best].
I need him to get up and get busy and have a life of his own. I want him to finish his education, get his GED, a job to either help pay the bills or get his own place and if he wants to - go to college. He is doing mostly a decent job helping out around here at home and with my buz - it is not that he is just lazing around and giving me grief, but I need him to get motivated to do more and get something going for his own self.
I could drag him to our local tech college and sign him in and try my best to "make him go", and he most likely would without too much of a struggle when he realizes he has no other options [procrastinator]. I do not want to "make him go" - - - I want for him to learn how to do for himself. I don't want to manage, push, and prod him along for the rest of my life. How do I help him grow up, get more confidence and get "out there"? I know that once he gets the confidence and a bit of experience, he will be fine - but how do I jumpstart him without triggering another major Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) phase???
Any suggestions are appreciated...