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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 662221" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>When my kids were in elementary school (which is when you see them the most in a school setting) they didn't like me either. Or maybe they did and that's just how they work with one another. I remember standing next to one of them and she started badmouthing another Queen Bees little boy, telling me how he went through her drawers and stole money and blah, blah, blah. It was none of my business and s he hardly knew me. I thought, "If she'll talk about her friend's son that way to a stranger, she'll do t he same to mine." I couldn't stop her, of course, but I didn't have to be her friend.</p><p></p><p>I have always avoided cliques. They seem like Mean Girls all over again and there is always some drama and lots of gossip and backstabbing. </p><p></p><p>When I was a kid, I was bullied by these Queen Bees. Now I didn't want them to like me. I didn't want a nything to do with them socially. I just wished they'd leave me alone. But they were not even nice to each other so they were not going to leave me alone until I learned how to speak back in a way that made them look silly to their friends (and I did learn this and it did stop). </p><p></p><p>My sister wanted to be "popular." I used to hear her on our phone as our house afforded not privacy and there were no cell phones. When it was her turn for the mean girls to hate on her, she'd be bawling and asking what she did wrong and it made me roll my eyes and think, "Why do you care? Tell them to taking a flying leap."f</p><p></p><p>By high school, back in adult land, I didn't see Queen Bee moms again until Jumper because my other kids were not active in school activities so I stayed away from school unless I had to go because of some academic issue. When Jumper came along, doing her sports star thing, I met the Queen Bee moms in droves. They all seemed to want to talk to me because of Jumper's star status. It was a small town and most were pretty nice to me and complimentary toward Jumper. It was an interesting experience. I did not befriend the crowd of Queens and Kings, partly because although they hung together it was usually a drink fest and hubby and I don't drink and don't enjoy watching drunk people, but no matter what...because of Jumper, they were very kind to us. </p><p></p><p>Opportunistic group and interesting to study psychologically as a layperson who is interested in behavior, b ut certainly did not want to join in. They had falling outs too and you'd know it even though you weren't there because suddenly one mom was shunned by the group and sat alone or with new people and once in a while they'd come to me and talk about it because I really was not in the group and usually chose to sit (with my hubby) way on top of t he bleachers by a few other non-queen bee mothers and fathers. </p><p></p><p>Heard a lot of stories that sounded like Mean Girls Plus since they were now adults. Always tried to be very kind and friendly to those who had been "kicked out." In our schools group of Mean Girls, it was unusual for the kicked out member to be allowed back in. Or maybe the person decided, "I'm done."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 662221, member: 1550"] When my kids were in elementary school (which is when you see them the most in a school setting) they didn't like me either. Or maybe they did and that's just how they work with one another. I remember standing next to one of them and she started badmouthing another Queen Bees little boy, telling me how he went through her drawers and stole money and blah, blah, blah. It was none of my business and s he hardly knew me. I thought, "If she'll talk about her friend's son that way to a stranger, she'll do t he same to mine." I couldn't stop her, of course, but I didn't have to be her friend. I have always avoided cliques. They seem like Mean Girls all over again and there is always some drama and lots of gossip and backstabbing. When I was a kid, I was bullied by these Queen Bees. Now I didn't want them to like me. I didn't want a nything to do with them socially. I just wished they'd leave me alone. But they were not even nice to each other so they were not going to leave me alone until I learned how to speak back in a way that made them look silly to their friends (and I did learn this and it did stop). My sister wanted to be "popular." I used to hear her on our phone as our house afforded not privacy and there were no cell phones. When it was her turn for the mean girls to hate on her, she'd be bawling and asking what she did wrong and it made me roll my eyes and think, "Why do you care? Tell them to taking a flying leap."f By high school, back in adult land, I didn't see Queen Bee moms again until Jumper because my other kids were not active in school activities so I stayed away from school unless I had to go because of some academic issue. When Jumper came along, doing her sports star thing, I met the Queen Bee moms in droves. They all seemed to want to talk to me because of Jumper's star status. It was a small town and most were pretty nice to me and complimentary toward Jumper. It was an interesting experience. I did not befriend the crowd of Queens and Kings, partly because although they hung together it was usually a drink fest and hubby and I don't drink and don't enjoy watching drunk people, but no matter what...because of Jumper, they were very kind to us. Opportunistic group and interesting to study psychologically as a layperson who is interested in behavior, b ut certainly did not want to join in. They had falling outs too and you'd know it even though you weren't there because suddenly one mom was shunned by the group and sat alone or with new people and once in a while they'd come to me and talk about it because I really was not in the group and usually chose to sit (with my hubby) way on top of t he bleachers by a few other non-queen bee mothers and fathers. Heard a lot of stories that sounded like Mean Girls Plus since they were now adults. Always tried to be very kind and friendly to those who had been "kicked out." In our schools group of Mean Girls, it was unusual for the kicked out member to be allowed back in. Or maybe the person decided, "I'm done." [/QUOTE]
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