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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 496435" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Not out of line at all and very relevant, thanks for asking.</p><p></p><p>I'll tell you how most of the sober houses are run around here, but a lot of it depends on who is running it.</p><p></p><p>Upon release from treatment center the person goes to a halfway or three quarters house. The sober house difficult child went to was both. The first three months you were considered half way. She was NOT allowed to have a car or job. Her days were completely filled with AA meetings, both in-house and out, group sessions, house meetings, house chores, volunteer activities in the community, etc. There was very little down time if any. She was allowed to have home visits on Sunday 1-5 after the first month. Only a family member was allowed to pick her up or bring her back. She had to find rides to AA meetings outside the house from other women who have been sober at least a year. She was required to attend an AA meeting every day. Each resident was responsible for keeping their portion of the bedroom clean and had other household responsibilities to ensure the house ran smoothly. </p><p></p><p>Each resident was charged $400 a month (this varies of course per sober house) which included food. They received food donations from the foodbank and central market and various charitable organizations They never went hungry and people were very generous to them. If you couldn't afford the $400 hopefully you would be sposored by a family member. Of course we paid the rent.</p><p></p><p>Once your three months was up, assuming you had no setbacks, you advanced to the three-quarters part of the house where you had a bit more freedom. You were only required to attend four meetings a week and the big thing was you were allowed to look for a job. Job seeking could occur two days a week from 9-12 only. You could use that time writing resumes or going on interviews or making calls. The rest of the day you followed the schedule of the halfway house. You were also allowed to have a car at this point but quite honestly most of the women had had their licenses revoked so very few had a car. Those that did were now allowed to drive other sober house residents to meetings. Once you got a job your sponsor was no longer allowed to pay your rent and you were responsible for it. You also had additional house responsibilities like going to market for food or picking up donations.</p><p></p><p>When you first came in you were assigned a little buddy and a big buddy. The little buddy was another halfway resident to help show you the ropes. The big buddy was a three-quarters resident and was considered your mentor to help with your sobriety. They asked for a six month commitment when you entered but of course there was no way to enforce that. Rather it was more to let you know that you had to make a serious commitment to change and it wouldn't happen overnight. If you walked out you were given one more chance to come back and start over. If you were kicked out for a serious violation of the rules you were gone.</p><p></p><p>Granted this house was one of the best run houses in our area. It has a tremendous success rate among those that stay. The residents in several of the men's sober houses in the area help with the upkeep of the house when something needs repair. Some of the women have been there a year or longer.</p><p></p><p>The second sober house she left this one because she got mad that she was caught in a lie, was much less restrictive. You actually were required to have a job to be admitted and the rules were more relaxed. It was run by an elderly women who was in recovery for years and is really considered a three quarters house, so it is not a good place to go right from treatment. It is more for people who are further along in their recovery. In this house you were responsible for your own food and came and went as you pleased as long is it was in curfew.</p><p></p><p>Most of the houses are very restrictive in te beginning. The men's houses are run the same way, you don't get a job until after the three months. There is very little time alone. If you are not in meeting syou are helping others. Even after you leave, most residents come back to help or just hang out nightly. Some of the houses ever help you find housing wirth other sober people once you leave the sober house where you pay the rent and all your utilities butlive with other sober people in the community.</p><p></p><p>I hope this helps. If I haven't answered something let me know. I never knew these places existed before. If anyone is looking for a place to donate food, clothing, money, used furniture, these places wil gladly accept it.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 496435, member: 59"] Not out of line at all and very relevant, thanks for asking. I'll tell you how most of the sober houses are run around here, but a lot of it depends on who is running it. Upon release from treatment center the person goes to a halfway or three quarters house. The sober house difficult child went to was both. The first three months you were considered half way. She was NOT allowed to have a car or job. Her days were completely filled with AA meetings, both in-house and out, group sessions, house meetings, house chores, volunteer activities in the community, etc. There was very little down time if any. She was allowed to have home visits on Sunday 1-5 after the first month. Only a family member was allowed to pick her up or bring her back. She had to find rides to AA meetings outside the house from other women who have been sober at least a year. She was required to attend an AA meeting every day. Each resident was responsible for keeping their portion of the bedroom clean and had other household responsibilities to ensure the house ran smoothly. Each resident was charged $400 a month (this varies of course per sober house) which included food. They received food donations from the foodbank and central market and various charitable organizations They never went hungry and people were very generous to them. If you couldn't afford the $400 hopefully you would be sposored by a family member. Of course we paid the rent. Once your three months was up, assuming you had no setbacks, you advanced to the three-quarters part of the house where you had a bit more freedom. You were only required to attend four meetings a week and the big thing was you were allowed to look for a job. Job seeking could occur two days a week from 9-12 only. You could use that time writing resumes or going on interviews or making calls. The rest of the day you followed the schedule of the halfway house. You were also allowed to have a car at this point but quite honestly most of the women had had their licenses revoked so very few had a car. Those that did were now allowed to drive other sober house residents to meetings. Once you got a job your sponsor was no longer allowed to pay your rent and you were responsible for it. You also had additional house responsibilities like going to market for food or picking up donations. When you first came in you were assigned a little buddy and a big buddy. The little buddy was another halfway resident to help show you the ropes. The big buddy was a three-quarters resident and was considered your mentor to help with your sobriety. They asked for a six month commitment when you entered but of course there was no way to enforce that. Rather it was more to let you know that you had to make a serious commitment to change and it wouldn't happen overnight. If you walked out you were given one more chance to come back and start over. If you were kicked out for a serious violation of the rules you were gone. Granted this house was one of the best run houses in our area. It has a tremendous success rate among those that stay. The residents in several of the men's sober houses in the area help with the upkeep of the house when something needs repair. Some of the women have been there a year or longer. The second sober house she left this one because she got mad that she was caught in a lie, was much less restrictive. You actually were required to have a job to be admitted and the rules were more relaxed. It was run by an elderly women who was in recovery for years and is really considered a three quarters house, so it is not a good place to go right from treatment. It is more for people who are further along in their recovery. In this house you were responsible for your own food and came and went as you pleased as long is it was in curfew. Most of the houses are very restrictive in te beginning. The men's houses are run the same way, you don't get a job until after the three months. There is very little time alone. If you are not in meeting syou are helping others. Even after you leave, most residents come back to help or just hang out nightly. Some of the houses ever help you find housing wirth other sober people once you leave the sober house where you pay the rent and all your utilities butlive with other sober people in the community. I hope this helps. If I haven't answered something let me know. I never knew these places existed before. If anyone is looking for a place to donate food, clothing, money, used furniture, these places wil gladly accept it. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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