Thanks all....the kids are definitely back to abnormal...
... we have both going on...art therapy once a week in new brunswick at the PALS program (domestic violence counselors) as well as the state run at home therapy two hours a week...
Beth...I love Robert Wood Johnson...in fact that is where they were all taken after the stabbings...the children's hospital is absolutely amazing...you can bet your bottom dollar that i am using their trama fully to their advantage...
Rere is doing fine....she is completely tube free, and today she has an appointment with the surgeon so hopefully she can go back to school on at least a half day basis...she still needs me to wipe her butt and she can't sit for too long in the same spot, since the scar on her back is on her hip bone...she was complaining that her chest hurt near her heart, but being half Italian i am thinking it's gas....lol...with my 93 year old italian grandmother, every pain is gas and no matter what you do...you will get hemmorroids and arthritis...lol..those are the three maladies that we suffer or will suffer from in the future...
The boys have been going to a nuerodevelopmental shrink, but since this happened, my blue cross/blue shield has contacted me personally to help me with anything at all that the kids need, so i will call my case manager directly...
Also, we have to meet with the prosecutors office again to have them question her to see if she was being sexually abused by her father as well(we now know he was a covicted sex offender)...i personally would rather have the therapist see if that was the case, and help her move on, but with them interviewing her and finding out that is true, then they have more ammo for the case to not go to trial, and just lock him up for life...I just want life to get back to a little normalcy...I know i am depressed (i don't even change out of my pajamas for a day or two), but nothing that a little chocolate can't solve :smile:
I can't believe that this has all happened, and the things that are coming out about their father's home life makes me so ill....I'm finding out that he was giving them nyquil to go to sleep everytime they were there for visitation, yet the *%&%* would fight me over giving chris his medicine for his behavior...I don't understand it and i never will...On top of that, I have dyfs involved to make sure i am getting the kids their therapy(like i haven't been doing that 4 years for their behavior), but just knowing they are involved makes everything so stressful...and i can tell you all firsthand, that they do absolutely nothing for the kids at all...in fact just a few days ago, a mother with an open dyfs case killed her 9 month old baby...so since we have to keep going back to court to show what we are doing, i am going to
them dry for every resource finacially that i can...even in court the children's advocate questioned why they were stressing my family like they were...the judge actually apologized and said that bob and i are not the criminals it's just to insure that they receive all benefits that they are entitled to...Well i vented enough...pray that i keep my sanity in dealing with all this...i have been out of work since this happened, so also pray that i do not receive an eviction letter..lol..when it rains it pours