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<blockquote data-quote="dashcat" data-source="post: 413443" data-attributes="member: 9175"><p>I think it's perfectly ok to attach strings to the $900. There will be plenty of choices down the road for him to make and plenty of chances for him to prove he is on the right path, or to prove otherwise. Why tempt fate with only a few weeks to go? I'm with your boyfriend on this: This is what we are willing to do for you. You will get the keys when your license is restored. </p><p> </p><p>An in real life comparasion: You buy a house. You go to the bank, apply for a loan and give them a downpayment. Your loan is approved and you are given a closing date. Do they hand you the keys to the house and say "You can't go in until 3/21, but here are the keys anyway. If you choose to go in before the closing date, you will suffer the consequences."</p><p> </p><p>Of course not. And, of course, 90% of the population would not attempt to enter the house before closing. But they wouldn't give you the keys before the deal closed even if you were the Pope! </p><p> </p><p>So why give him the keys on a car YOU'VE paid to fix before his license is restored and he's clear.</p><p> </p><p>He'll have plently of temptation down the road. Give him the best chance of success that you can and then allow him to keep going forward, or to not.</p><p> </p><p>Dash</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dashcat, post: 413443, member: 9175"] I think it's perfectly ok to attach strings to the $900. There will be plenty of choices down the road for him to make and plenty of chances for him to prove he is on the right path, or to prove otherwise. Why tempt fate with only a few weeks to go? I'm with your boyfriend on this: This is what we are willing to do for you. You will get the keys when your license is restored. An in real life comparasion: You buy a house. You go to the bank, apply for a loan and give them a downpayment. Your loan is approved and you are given a closing date. Do they hand you the keys to the house and say "You can't go in until 3/21, but here are the keys anyway. If you choose to go in before the closing date, you will suffer the consequences." Of course not. And, of course, 90% of the population would not attempt to enter the house before closing. But they wouldn't give you the keys before the deal closed even if you were the Pope! So why give him the keys on a car YOU'VE paid to fix before his license is restored and he's clear. He'll have plently of temptation down the road. Give him the best chance of success that you can and then allow him to keep going forward, or to not. Dash [/QUOTE]
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