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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 571869" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>I'm incredibly sorry to learn of your health issues. I imagine you are going through all number of things emotionally and physically. I think the au pair idea sounds perfect, and that the young woman volunteers as she does with autistic children bodes well for her character and her stamina in handling working with difficult child's. I don't have any advice for you other than to remember that kids do well when mama does well. In other words, take care of yourself! Your kiddos needs are no less important than they have always been. There is however a new importance to your needs and a increase in needs as well. When prioritizing, it will go against the grain of being "mom" to put your needs first, and at times axing completely a childs needs to ensure your own are met. Just please know that not only is that okay, it is likely inevitable at various times. And it is OKAY. It really is. Your instinct will likely be to not back down a wit on difficult child issues, and I get it , really. At the same time, your kids needs going down the list at certain times is okay. Your body and spirit will need more nourishment and rest and gentle care than usual. Be sure to include your kids in doing nice things for you if it helps them to feel they are doing something to assist you through this. It will not only help you, but will help them feel productive and useful and beneficial while you go through this. Even difficult children are likely to find ways to "do" for mom in this circumstance and it is important that they be allowed.</p><p></p><p>I'll be sending boat loads of positive juju and rattling beads for healing for you as you move forward.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 571869, member: 4264"] I'm incredibly sorry to learn of your health issues. I imagine you are going through all number of things emotionally and physically. I think the au pair idea sounds perfect, and that the young woman volunteers as she does with autistic children bodes well for her character and her stamina in handling working with difficult child's. I don't have any advice for you other than to remember that kids do well when mama does well. In other words, take care of yourself! Your kiddos needs are no less important than they have always been. There is however a new importance to your needs and a increase in needs as well. When prioritizing, it will go against the grain of being "mom" to put your needs first, and at times axing completely a childs needs to ensure your own are met. Just please know that not only is that okay, it is likely inevitable at various times. And it is OKAY. It really is. Your instinct will likely be to not back down a wit on difficult child issues, and I get it , really. At the same time, your kids needs going down the list at certain times is okay. Your body and spirit will need more nourishment and rest and gentle care than usual. Be sure to include your kids in doing nice things for you if it helps them to feel they are doing something to assist you through this. It will not only help you, but will help them feel productive and useful and beneficial while you go through this. Even difficult children are likely to find ways to "do" for mom in this circumstance and it is important that they be allowed. I'll be sending boat loads of positive juju and rattling beads for healing for you as you move forward. [/QUOTE]
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