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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 461679" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I want to mention that group therapy for issues like this can be far more effective than individual therapy. Group therapy was the key in getting Wiz to realize that the things he did to Jess were not okay. It took longer to get him to be able to stop them, but the group therapy for abusers in the psychiatric hospital was what really turned the corner. His attitude that he had a God given right to do anything he wanted, no limits at all, to Jess upset another kid so bad the kid punched him in the face. psychiatric hospital wanted me to file charges, I wanted to buy the boy an ice cream. It was a HUGE shock to Wiz that another kid thought he was way out of line for what he did to Jess, and thought it was bad enough to try to beat him up and willingly took those consequences for attacking him. It was another HUGE shock that I wanted to reward the boy - I have never seen Wiz so confused. Someone hurt my child, I was supposed to go into a rage, demand he be removed from the psychiatric hospital, sue his family for millions of dollars, etc.... NOT ask if there was a way I could give the boy a gift for FINALLY showing Wiz that it wasn't just adults who were "out of touch with reality" who thought Wiz was doing bad things.</p><p></p><p>So if there is an option for a group therapy of some kind for abusers, it may be a worthwhile thing for difficult child.</p><p></p><p>There is a LOT of room for hope - the next years will be tough but if you are just as tough then the future really can be great for him. He just has to figure some things out. Reality Therapy and/or Choice Therapy are 2 books by Dr. Wm Glasser that might be a real help to you. My stepMIL sets up programs in prisons around the world to hel both lifelong inmates and those being released. For some reason, this seems to be amazingly effective. Locally she works with lifers, those with no hope of release, to get them to change their lives based on this therapy - and it works. Once they have fully accepted the therapy, they then teach it to those who have a chance to be released. It is very successful at reducing recidivism AND reducing violence in those who cannot be released. The books were very helpful to us, and I know that Star used at least one of them and it helped some. Just wanted to add that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 461679, member: 1233"] I want to mention that group therapy for issues like this can be far more effective than individual therapy. Group therapy was the key in getting Wiz to realize that the things he did to Jess were not okay. It took longer to get him to be able to stop them, but the group therapy for abusers in the psychiatric hospital was what really turned the corner. His attitude that he had a God given right to do anything he wanted, no limits at all, to Jess upset another kid so bad the kid punched him in the face. psychiatric hospital wanted me to file charges, I wanted to buy the boy an ice cream. It was a HUGE shock to Wiz that another kid thought he was way out of line for what he did to Jess, and thought it was bad enough to try to beat him up and willingly took those consequences for attacking him. It was another HUGE shock that I wanted to reward the boy - I have never seen Wiz so confused. Someone hurt my child, I was supposed to go into a rage, demand he be removed from the psychiatric hospital, sue his family for millions of dollars, etc.... NOT ask if there was a way I could give the boy a gift for FINALLY showing Wiz that it wasn't just adults who were "out of touch with reality" who thought Wiz was doing bad things. So if there is an option for a group therapy of some kind for abusers, it may be a worthwhile thing for difficult child. There is a LOT of room for hope - the next years will be tough but if you are just as tough then the future really can be great for him. He just has to figure some things out. Reality Therapy and/or Choice Therapy are 2 books by Dr. Wm Glasser that might be a real help to you. My stepMIL sets up programs in prisons around the world to hel both lifelong inmates and those being released. For some reason, this seems to be amazingly effective. Locally she works with lifers, those with no hope of release, to get them to change their lives based on this therapy - and it works. Once they have fully accepted the therapy, they then teach it to those who have a chance to be released. It is very successful at reducing recidivism AND reducing violence in those who cannot be released. The books were very helpful to us, and I know that Star used at least one of them and it helped some. Just wanted to add that. [/QUOTE]
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