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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 461818" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Thank you.</p><p>Yes, I think we will get a lot of leverage out of his potential driver's license. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>I turned off the router today (hate to do that with-Verizon svc so finicky) but after 6 hrs, difficult child still hadn't washed the pots and pans, brought in the dogs, or taken a shower or brushed his teeth. He threw a fit. Luckily, husband was home, and helped play interference.</p><p>difficult child insisted that he was going to turn off the computer in 15 seconds and it was all my fault for ruining what he was in the middle of. I told him he was 6 hrs and 15 seconds late. (I would have turned it off earlier but had to p/u husband from the airport, and visit P, and felt more comfortable risking a meltdown with-husband around.)</p><p></p><p>After difficult child left the room, I said under my breath, "He is acting like such a baby."</p><p>He heard me. husband said, "Well, you are acting like a kid instead of a teenager or man."</p><p>difficult child said F-&*%*@%^@@! and then from the other side of the wall I hear this voice, "Oh, no, I didn't mean to say that. I'm sorry!" and he burst into tears.</p><p>Arrrgh. Yes, he was acting like a baby. We both immediately told him we forgave him for swearing (that is the fastest turnaround in his history) and left him alone for a few min. When we left to go to a cousin's birthday party, difficult child was sitting on the couch writing me an apology for the other day.</p><p>The apology said, "Dear Mom, I am sorry for doing whatever it was you thought I did so that you thought you had to call the police."</p><p>Uhhhh ...</p><p>I read it aloud and said, "Just because you didn't hit me or strangle me doesn't mean I wasn't feeling threatened."</p><p>He said, "All I did was stand in front of you."</p><p></p><p>So I said, "Not tonight, but sometime this week, we are going to play-act what happened and what you think you did, and what I think you did." </p><p></p><p>He really doesn't get it. I want husband to be there, but I'm also going to check the calender for our next talk-therapy appointment because this would also be a good thing to do with-the therapist. </p><p>Gosh, when I had kids, I thought I'd be teaching them to tie their shoes, say the alphabet, dial a phone, and write thank you notes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 461818, member: 3419"] Thank you. Yes, I think we will get a lot of leverage out of his potential driver's license. :) I turned off the router today (hate to do that with-Verizon svc so finicky) but after 6 hrs, difficult child still hadn't washed the pots and pans, brought in the dogs, or taken a shower or brushed his teeth. He threw a fit. Luckily, husband was home, and helped play interference. difficult child insisted that he was going to turn off the computer in 15 seconds and it was all my fault for ruining what he was in the middle of. I told him he was 6 hrs and 15 seconds late. (I would have turned it off earlier but had to p/u husband from the airport, and visit P, and felt more comfortable risking a meltdown with-husband around.) After difficult child left the room, I said under my breath, "He is acting like such a baby." He heard me. husband said, "Well, you are acting like a kid instead of a teenager or man." difficult child said F-&*%*@%^@@! and then from the other side of the wall I hear this voice, "Oh, no, I didn't mean to say that. I'm sorry!" and he burst into tears. Arrrgh. Yes, he was acting like a baby. We both immediately told him we forgave him for swearing (that is the fastest turnaround in his history) and left him alone for a few min. When we left to go to a cousin's birthday party, difficult child was sitting on the couch writing me an apology for the other day. The apology said, "Dear Mom, I am sorry for doing whatever it was you thought I did so that you thought you had to call the police." Uhhhh ... I read it aloud and said, "Just because you didn't hit me or strangle me doesn't mean I wasn't feeling threatened." He said, "All I did was stand in front of you." So I said, "Not tonight, but sometime this week, we are going to play-act what happened and what you think you did, and what I think you did." He really doesn't get it. I want husband to be there, but I'm also going to check the calender for our next talk-therapy appointment because this would also be a good thing to do with-the therapist. Gosh, when I had kids, I thought I'd be teaching them to tie their shoes, say the alphabet, dial a phone, and write thank you notes. [/QUOTE]
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