If you remember my son he's the one who, with other boys in the 9th grade, smashed a flat screen at the parochial school they attended where I teach who also wants to be the next Eminem (They were going to post it online as stupid kid video) That began the long road of dealing with the feeling of betrayal because it was at my school, finding a new school but not til a year later (year of hell for me teaching where my surley kid attends) and just Thursday he graduated from a charter school with an AA AND High School Degree. We were thrilled and went to a lot of trouble to put together an extended family party and went to the graduation. He ended up not coming home that night. He texted and said where he was and we said fine, drive home safe and have fun. Then an hour later, after we'd gone to bed he texted and told us he was staying. We woke up at 3 to find him not there and from last posts you see that we'd had minor difficulty with drugs so we were very upset. So yesterday HE says we are controlling because we are upset that he stayed out all night with-out permission. If he had he asked we'd have extended his curfew-but not ALL NIGHT. He left on foot angry and hasn't returned- we took his keys when he walked away from us while we were discussing consequences. I know he's trying to set the stage for the summer: he's a graduate now so he can come and go as he pleases. THEN I get a call from my school. My daughter who's never been in trouble suddenly has had her own 9th grade "lets vandalize Mom's school" phase. She used to attend the school and was accepted to a magnet school close by. So one day a week she returns to the school to go to youth group. I got a call from the principal that she'd been with 2 boys who took master keys and had been roaming the school stealing theater props and smoking-my daughter with them. The boys got expelled and of course my daughter isn't in trouble because she doesn't go there but I am mortified! The previous week-Mother's Day of course, she is spending the night with a friend and has a vomiting frenzy the night before. We suspect a stomache bug but I finally got her to confess she tried a couple of sips of beer but no more-yeah right. I gave her grace and didn't get her in trouble w my husband or the girl's mom because it's a 1st offense but now that my eyes are opened to who she is-I don't know if that was the right call. Now I honestly feel like I want to leave my job and have been crying all night and morning. After my son's incident, I was so embarrassed in front of all my colleagues I struggled to hold my head up and MAKE my son successful to say SEE we are a good family. But I can't even enjoy our success of getting him into a good college because now my daughter has done it too. I've worn out all my friends with my son's drama so I don't even feel like talking to anyone. I feel so much shame. I don't know how I can return on Monday nor do I want to even see my own teens anymore. easy child is appalled that this has come to light and so sorry. She didn't mean to hurt me, etc. Just wanted to vent to people who understand.