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Re: Help I need help kicked my son out (Intro post)
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<blockquote data-quote="Elsieshaye" data-source="post: 484758" data-attributes="member: 12928"><p>You're absolutely not alone. I kicked out my 18 year old almost 2 months ago now, and also became the "bad mom" and target of everyone's anger and codependency. He's living 300 miles away with his father now, and I had to block all contact with him after increasingly hostile communication from him. And, yes, the cops were involved too, although I didn't get a restraining order (he left the area before it became necessary, but it was my next step if he escalated).</p><p></p><p>Lots of hugs and support to you. As others have said, you absolutely deserve and require to be safe in your own home. At 25, he does not need to be living with his mom and doing drugs while you completely subsidize him. Seriously. Hang in there, and don't cave in to pressure from family. As long as you're his punching bag and bank account, nobody else has to be, so they are invested in keeping him with you rather than in following your lead and giving him consequences for his actions. Focus on your own needs now, including therapy. Being physically threatened is not trivial, and can have long-lasting effects in terms of anxiety and stress, especially since he is living right next door!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsieshaye, post: 484758, member: 12928"] You're absolutely not alone. I kicked out my 18 year old almost 2 months ago now, and also became the "bad mom" and target of everyone's anger and codependency. He's living 300 miles away with his father now, and I had to block all contact with him after increasingly hostile communication from him. And, yes, the cops were involved too, although I didn't get a restraining order (he left the area before it became necessary, but it was my next step if he escalated). Lots of hugs and support to you. As others have said, you absolutely deserve and require to be safe in your own home. At 25, he does not need to be living with his mom and doing drugs while you completely subsidize him. Seriously. Hang in there, and don't cave in to pressure from family. As long as you're his punching bag and bank account, nobody else has to be, so they are invested in keeping him with you rather than in following your lead and giving him consequences for his actions. Focus on your own needs now, including therapy. Being physically threatened is not trivial, and can have long-lasting effects in terms of anxiety and stress, especially since he is living right next door! [/QUOTE]
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