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<blockquote data-quote="smallworld" data-source="post: 109623" data-attributes="member: 2423"><p>Paul, welcome back. I'm sorry it's going to take 4 to 6 months for the neuropsychologist evaluation, but the good ones tend to book far in advance. You might want to ask the neuropsychologist to put you on a cancellation list and be prepared to move quickly if you are called for an earlier appointment.</p><p></p><p>In the meantime, have you read The Explosive Child? And have you considered finding a counselor or therapist who can help you work together as a family? I'm concerned that you're using spanking as a discipline tool because to my way of thinking all spanking teaches a child is "might is right." Not exactly a lesson you want to impart on a defiant difficult child.</p><p></p><p>About the medications, what do you mean he's "making a fast switcheroo"? Are you watching him take his medications each and every time? If not, you should be because most 10-year-olds are not responsible enough to dose themselves. If he refuses, can you make his world stop -- no going anywhere or doing anything -- until he complies? Or can you find a pleasant activity to do -- reading a book or taking a walk together -- once he has taken his medications? Have you asked him why he doesn't want to take them? Do they make him feel weird in any way? We told our son that he didn't have a choice about taking medications, but we would always listen to him about how the medications made him feel. In this way, we were able to win his cooperation. </p><p></p><p>If he's intentionally being rude to adults, can you remove him from the situation? And if he doesn't tell you where he's going, can you limit his playdates or require his friends to come to your house?</p><p></p><p>Can you drop certain expectations for now (at least until you figure out his diagnosis and proper interventions), such as requiring him to attend church and rinsing his dishes? When my kids are not stable, these kinds of expectations go by the wayside. When they are more stable, the expectations ratchet up.</p><p></p><p>Just throwing a lot of ideas out there -- hope you find something helpful to put to use. Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="smallworld, post: 109623, member: 2423"] Paul, welcome back. I'm sorry it's going to take 4 to 6 months for the neuropsychologist evaluation, but the good ones tend to book far in advance. You might want to ask the neuropsychologist to put you on a cancellation list and be prepared to move quickly if you are called for an earlier appointment. In the meantime, have you read The Explosive Child? And have you considered finding a counselor or therapist who can help you work together as a family? I'm concerned that you're using spanking as a discipline tool because to my way of thinking all spanking teaches a child is "might is right." Not exactly a lesson you want to impart on a defiant difficult child. About the medications, what do you mean he's "making a fast switcheroo"? Are you watching him take his medications each and every time? If not, you should be because most 10-year-olds are not responsible enough to dose themselves. If he refuses, can you make his world stop -- no going anywhere or doing anything -- until he complies? Or can you find a pleasant activity to do -- reading a book or taking a walk together -- once he has taken his medications? Have you asked him why he doesn't want to take them? Do they make him feel weird in any way? We told our son that he didn't have a choice about taking medications, but we would always listen to him about how the medications made him feel. In this way, we were able to win his cooperation. If he's intentionally being rude to adults, can you remove him from the situation? And if he doesn't tell you where he's going, can you limit his playdates or require his friends to come to your house? Can you drop certain expectations for now (at least until you figure out his diagnosis and proper interventions), such as requiring him to attend church and rinsing his dishes? When my kids are not stable, these kinds of expectations go by the wayside. When they are more stable, the expectations ratchet up. Just throwing a lot of ideas out there -- hope you find something helpful to put to use. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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