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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 109634"><p>Originally Posted By: Paul</p><p>The dropping of chores will have to be discussed further as we have built a family of responsibility, so taking those expectations out may isolate other family members.</p><p></p><p>Look at it this way. If you had a child in a wheelchair would you expect him to run the vacuum? difficult child 2 has a disability and as of this moment you don't know what it is so you really have no way of gauging his current limitations. Once you get the evaluations done and have a better handle on his current abilities, you'll have a starting point. Then, with therapeutic interventions you can build from that.</p><p></p><p>Actually, 4-6 months for an appointment with a neuropsychologist isn't unusual. There's a lot more demand than there is supply in that field. I would try to get on a cancellation list.</p><p></p><p>Also, when he says, 'I don't know' he may really not know - or at least not have the insight nor the words to articulate it. My difficult child has strong language skills, she is gifted in vocabulary, but she has very few feelings words. She also does not make the connection between the physical and the mental/emotional. For example, when her anxiety kicks up so do her physical complaints, but until recently you absolutely could not convince her that they are related. A lot of our kids just don't automatically make these connections that you and I take for granted and they have to be taught. So, for example, instead of asking her if she is anxious/nervous - which would illicit an 'I don't know' answer - I ask her if her tummy hurts, if her head hurts, if she's feeling sick and what she's been thinking about, if she's been worried about anything.</p><p></p><p>So, instead of asking him open-ended questions like, 'How do you feel about taking your medication?' which he may not know how to answer, ask him things that are concrete such as, 'After you take your medication do you have an upset stomach [or a headache or a dry mouth or whatever]?' Or 'Do you worry about what people will think because you take medication?' Have you talked to him about why he needs medication and what it's supposed to help with? Have you had a conversation about how some people, like diabetics, need to take medication?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 109634"] Originally Posted By: Paul The dropping of chores will have to be discussed further as we have built a family of responsibility, so taking those expectations out may isolate other family members. Look at it this way. If you had a child in a wheelchair would you expect him to run the vacuum? difficult child 2 has a disability and as of this moment you don't know what it is so you really have no way of gauging his current limitations. Once you get the evaluations done and have a better handle on his current abilities, you'll have a starting point. Then, with therapeutic interventions you can build from that. Actually, 4-6 months for an appointment with a neuropsychologist isn't unusual. There's a lot more demand than there is supply in that field. I would try to get on a cancellation list. Also, when he says, 'I don't know' he may really not know - or at least not have the insight nor the words to articulate it. My difficult child has strong language skills, she is gifted in vocabulary, but she has very few feelings words. She also does not make the connection between the physical and the mental/emotional. For example, when her anxiety kicks up so do her physical complaints, but until recently you absolutely could not convince her that they are related. A lot of our kids just don't automatically make these connections that you and I take for granted and they have to be taught. So, for example, instead of asking her if she is anxious/nervous - which would illicit an 'I don't know' answer - I ask her if her tummy hurts, if her head hurts, if she's feeling sick and what she's been thinking about, if she's been worried about anything. So, instead of asking him open-ended questions like, 'How do you feel about taking your medication?' which he may not know how to answer, ask him things that are concrete such as, 'After you take your medication do you have an upset stomach [or a headache or a dry mouth or whatever]?' Or 'Do you worry about what people will think because you take medication?' Have you talked to him about why he needs medication and what it's supposed to help with? Have you had a conversation about how some people, like diabetics, need to take medication? [/QUOTE]
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