Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
RE: ODD Child - Situation Degrading....
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="wakeupcall" data-source="post: 109660" data-attributes="member: 2287"><p>Wow, Paul, you sound like you're at your wits end. Been there done that. My difficult child is now twelve and we've sure had a ride for twelve years, so I know <em>exactly</em> where you are coming from.</p><p></p><p>First, take a deeeeep breath and try to relax a little. This parenting an exceptional child is not for the faint-hearted. After all this time, the thing that helps me the most is to repeat to myself....he has a disability. It's so difficult because with the disability of our children, it can't be seen. All it feels like is that they are being intentionally difficult. Being the mother here, I know what it feels like to be the brunt of most of the actions. I've cried buckets of tears, run away, started myself on medications, etc. WE are human, too. That being said.......we still have to contend with our children.</p><p></p><p>First, although I did it, too, spanking only makes the issue at hand escalate. At 12 my difficult child responds best when I stop talking to him completely. Do NOT engage in his mouthy actions. I found out my difficult child was literally feeding off my comebacks and loved it that he was getting my goat! Right this minute his mouth has gotten on overload (I imagine it's anxiety over the holiday) and it's working for me to remove a present from under the tree for DISRESPECT! Boy, did that ever STOP it. Now each day he's disrespectful a present is removed and he must earn it back with good behavior (no way he gets is back that day). Funny, the only chores I ask of difficult child is good behavior. I think that's very hard for him to accomplish. I've even let go of the "make your bed", "take out the trash", etc. Yes, I pick my battles. I will do almost anything to have some peace in this house. It's HARD and you have many more years to go.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="wakeupcall, post: 109660, member: 2287"] Wow, Paul, you sound like you're at your wits end. Been there done that. My difficult child is now twelve and we've sure had a ride for twelve years, so I know [i]exactly[/i] where you are coming from. First, take a deeeeep breath and try to relax a little. This parenting an exceptional child is not for the faint-hearted. After all this time, the thing that helps me the most is to repeat to myself....he has a disability. It's so difficult because with the disability of our children, it can't be seen. All it feels like is that they are being intentionally difficult. Being the mother here, I know what it feels like to be the brunt of most of the actions. I've cried buckets of tears, run away, started myself on medications, etc. WE are human, too. That being said.......we still have to contend with our children. First, although I did it, too, spanking only makes the issue at hand escalate. At 12 my difficult child responds best when I stop talking to him completely. Do NOT engage in his mouthy actions. I found out my difficult child was literally feeding off my comebacks and loved it that he was getting my goat! Right this minute his mouth has gotten on overload (I imagine it's anxiety over the holiday) and it's working for me to remove a present from under the tree for DISRESPECT! Boy, did that ever STOP it. Now each day he's disrespectful a present is removed and he must earn it back with good behavior (no way he gets is back that day). Funny, the only chores I ask of difficult child is good behavior. I think that's very hard for him to accomplish. I've even let go of the "make your bed", "take out the trash", etc. Yes, I pick my battles. I will do almost anything to have some peace in this house. It's HARD and you have many more years to go. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
RE: ODD Child - Situation Degrading....
Top