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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 445623" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>And this is your problem.... why? I'm sorry - I know that sounds hard and callous, but at some point you have got to say enough already. It's not easy and it will break your heart, but you are not obligated to be their safety net for the rest of your life. How long are you going to allow your children's choices to have such a negative impact on your own life? </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>You have earned the right to have a peaceful home, Mog. You deserve friends and fun and *peace*. You've *earned* it. Repeat it to yourself, over and over and over again. Motherhood does *not* mean a lifetime of sacrificing yourself for your children, especially when they have no apparent interest in getting on with their lives. And it's not just about you - husband deserves it too. </p><p></p><p>If your kids are not going to follow house rules, they need to leave. Period. If you have to formally evict them, do it. They don't have anywhere else to go? Not your problem. They could have followed rules, come in at a decent hour, gotten to work on the business of living their own lives, etc., but they didn't. They are abusing your kindness. </p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry - it's a horrible position to be in, but it is time to start really taking care of you and husband.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 445623, member: 8"] And this is your problem.... why? I'm sorry - I know that sounds hard and callous, but at some point you have got to say enough already. It's not easy and it will break your heart, but you are not obligated to be their safety net for the rest of your life. How long are you going to allow your children's choices to have such a negative impact on your own life? You have earned the right to have a peaceful home, Mog. You deserve friends and fun and *peace*. You've *earned* it. Repeat it to yourself, over and over and over again. Motherhood does *not* mean a lifetime of sacrificing yourself for your children, especially when they have no apparent interest in getting on with their lives. And it's not just about you - husband deserves it too. If your kids are not going to follow house rules, they need to leave. Period. If you have to formally evict them, do it. They don't have anywhere else to go? Not your problem. They could have followed rules, come in at a decent hour, gotten to work on the business of living their own lives, etc., but they didn't. They are abusing your kindness. I'm so sorry - it's a horrible position to be in, but it is time to start really taking care of you and husband. [/QUOTE]
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