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<blockquote data-quote="Bunny" data-source="post: 494566"><p>Malika, I know what you are saying. Yes, I could have let him go into easy child's room to see what would happen, but they always say that the best indicator of future behavior is past behavior and I know in the past when he has gone after easy child like he did last night it was not to give him a hug and a peck on the cheek, if you know what I mean.</p><p></p><p>After he calmed down, or calmed down as best as he could, and he started talking about he could not go to school because it's just too much for him I asked him to tell me why is was too hard. He just said that I didn't understand, to which I asked him to help me understand. Tell me why it's too much for him? Was it the school work? Were there problems with other kids? Please, I begged him, help me to understand so that I could help him. husband was standing right there, my in-laws were downstairs listening to what I was saying to him, but difficult child just kept saying that I didn't understand. </p><p></p><p>Then he started in about his homework not being done. So, even though he had behaved the way he did I told him that if he wanted to stay up an extra half hour to try to get some of the work done I would allow that. Again, he just looked at me and said, "Like you would let me do that!" I told him that dad heard me say it and that Gram and Gramdpa heard me say it and that if that was what he wanted, I would do it. I figured that if he got some of the work done (because difficult child would rather get all his teeth pulled out without the benefit of anesthesia that have to go to school and tell the teacher that his homework wasn't done) he would feel less anxiety, less pressure, and would be able to tell me what the trouble was.</p><p></p><p>While I did lose my temper, once I calmed down I did try to make him understand that I was listening and trying to understand what he was trying to tell me.</p><p></p><p>He did admit to me this morning that he should have told easy child that he was sorry for scaring him. I'm not sure if that is real remorse, or he just wants his X-box back.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bunny, post: 494566"] Malika, I know what you are saying. Yes, I could have let him go into easy child's room to see what would happen, but they always say that the best indicator of future behavior is past behavior and I know in the past when he has gone after easy child like he did last night it was not to give him a hug and a peck on the cheek, if you know what I mean. After he calmed down, or calmed down as best as he could, and he started talking about he could not go to school because it's just too much for him I asked him to tell me why is was too hard. He just said that I didn't understand, to which I asked him to help me understand. Tell me why it's too much for him? Was it the school work? Were there problems with other kids? Please, I begged him, help me to understand so that I could help him. husband was standing right there, my in-laws were downstairs listening to what I was saying to him, but difficult child just kept saying that I didn't understand. Then he started in about his homework not being done. So, even though he had behaved the way he did I told him that if he wanted to stay up an extra half hour to try to get some of the work done I would allow that. Again, he just looked at me and said, "Like you would let me do that!" I told him that dad heard me say it and that Gram and Gramdpa heard me say it and that if that was what he wanted, I would do it. I figured that if he got some of the work done (because difficult child would rather get all his teeth pulled out without the benefit of anesthesia that have to go to school and tell the teacher that his homework wasn't done) he would feel less anxiety, less pressure, and would be able to tell me what the trouble was. While I did lose my temper, once I calmed down I did try to make him understand that I was listening and trying to understand what he was trying to tell me. He did admit to me this morning that he should have told easy child that he was sorry for scaring him. I'm not sure if that is real remorse, or he just wants his X-box back. [/QUOTE]
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