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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 514520" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Oh, DF. There are so many ways to look at this, so many ways to interpret. And we may never know the real answer... but someday you might. The way it strikes me? She's so full of negativity and anger and frustration that, when she "tries to be herself", all this stuff pours out... and maybe it really <em>isn't</em> her at all. She might have to find ways to get rid of those layers, before the real person shows herself at all... even to herself. The positive thing is that she is talking at all... </p><p></p><p>And the whole swing-between-parents thing? It's typical of younger kids - part of normal development. But kids with developmental challenges (across a wide range of dxes) are "younger" than their years, especially emotionally. Which means that this particular behavior may be totally normal for their "emotional age". I found it helpful with our difficult child to look at it that way... to take his behavior as though he were the age he is acting, rather than expecting him to act his age, because in reality, he<em> can't</em> act his age, he hasn't "got there" yet.</p><p></p><p>And... when you're part of a family that includes a difficult child... when anything changes, positive or negative, it puts everybody else on edge, because it isn't "normal"... even when/if it is!</p><p></p><p>{{hugs}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 514520, member: 11791"] Oh, DF. There are so many ways to look at this, so many ways to interpret. And we may never know the real answer... but someday you might. The way it strikes me? She's so full of negativity and anger and frustration that, when she "tries to be herself", all this stuff pours out... and maybe it really [I]isn't[/I] her at all. She might have to find ways to get rid of those layers, before the real person shows herself at all... even to herself. The positive thing is that she is talking at all... And the whole swing-between-parents thing? It's typical of younger kids - part of normal development. But kids with developmental challenges (across a wide range of dxes) are "younger" than their years, especially emotionally. Which means that this particular behavior may be totally normal for their "emotional age". I found it helpful with our difficult child to look at it that way... to take his behavior as though he were the age he is acting, rather than expecting him to act his age, because in reality, he[I] can't[/I] act his age, he hasn't "got there" yet. And... when you're part of a family that includes a difficult child... when anything changes, positive or negative, it puts everybody else on edge, because it isn't "normal"... even when/if it is! {{hugs}} [/QUOTE]
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