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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 318580" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Sounds to me that what difficult child wants is besides the point. If the point of making choices for their best interests is actually making steps to meet their interests, you have already stated that the current private school is not meeting his needs. Any school not working with you due to his Aspergers and what it creates in terms of needing services at school, isn't going to be a right fit for a child with Aspergers. its a no brainer really.</p><p></p><p>I totally understand that it might become a problem if kids learn he has an IEP. but part of IEP development is working with staff as a PARENT with a say. You can make provisions to ensure, due to those specific concerns, that help at school via his IEP is not blatant, and not in difficult child's face, nor in the other students face.</p><p></p><p>I also have to say, I would think a private school where he doesn't want to be, a school where his friends are not, a school that doesn't meet his special needs, has already become not the right option.</p><p></p><p>The fact of the matter is, as much as it hoovers, your child is different, as are all of the children that have brought us together here on this site. Our children are going to be different in the adult world. They are going to face some kids who label them and don't respect them as people as they should. They will face this as adults and part of helping these kids has got to be helping them learn to cope for their adult years, with the ugly people of the world. We should also keep in mind that our non difficult child kids can face the same social problems anyhow. My easy child is a COMPLETE easy child. She's a wonderful kid. She is bullied. She has few, if any "real" friends. Socially, there is no real reason she isn't making friends. I do know though, that for her, her difficult child brother had no problem making friends even with the entire school body knowing his problems and witnessing them. then his easy child sister has none of those issues and gets treated miserably at school. It isnt' always the kids we expect that have problems socially at school.</p><p></p><p>In the end, it sounds like whatever the resolution becomes, this school isn't it. It doesn't work with you and difficult child in working with his diagnosis and that is never going to be the right environment. </p><p></p><p>I do wish you the best of luck. Making tough choices like this is always a case for us parents of not knowing which boat to float at any given time. We want the best for our kids. Sometimes we have to take the good with the bad. I think for me, I'd prefer to help difficult child cope with problems socially at school, rather than coping with his education failing him because the school doesn't work with him. School ends and childhood friendships disolve. Education is the key to a future and for me anyhow, would be the deciding factor. Not that I'd ignore the social concerns, but that would be part of what I'd anticipate a school with a IEP would consider in working with your family.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 318580, member: 4264"] Sounds to me that what difficult child wants is besides the point. If the point of making choices for their best interests is actually making steps to meet their interests, you have already stated that the current private school is not meeting his needs. Any school not working with you due to his Aspergers and what it creates in terms of needing services at school, isn't going to be a right fit for a child with Aspergers. its a no brainer really. I totally understand that it might become a problem if kids learn he has an IEP. but part of IEP development is working with staff as a PARENT with a say. You can make provisions to ensure, due to those specific concerns, that help at school via his IEP is not blatant, and not in difficult child's face, nor in the other students face. I also have to say, I would think a private school where he doesn't want to be, a school where his friends are not, a school that doesn't meet his special needs, has already become not the right option. The fact of the matter is, as much as it hoovers, your child is different, as are all of the children that have brought us together here on this site. Our children are going to be different in the adult world. They are going to face some kids who label them and don't respect them as people as they should. They will face this as adults and part of helping these kids has got to be helping them learn to cope for their adult years, with the ugly people of the world. We should also keep in mind that our non difficult child kids can face the same social problems anyhow. My easy child is a COMPLETE easy child. She's a wonderful kid. She is bullied. She has few, if any "real" friends. Socially, there is no real reason she isn't making friends. I do know though, that for her, her difficult child brother had no problem making friends even with the entire school body knowing his problems and witnessing them. then his easy child sister has none of those issues and gets treated miserably at school. It isnt' always the kids we expect that have problems socially at school. In the end, it sounds like whatever the resolution becomes, this school isn't it. It doesn't work with you and difficult child in working with his diagnosis and that is never going to be the right environment. I do wish you the best of luck. Making tough choices like this is always a case for us parents of not knowing which boat to float at any given time. We want the best for our kids. Sometimes we have to take the good with the bad. I think for me, I'd prefer to help difficult child cope with problems socially at school, rather than coping with his education failing him because the school doesn't work with him. School ends and childhood friendships disolve. Education is the key to a future and for me anyhow, would be the deciding factor. Not that I'd ignore the social concerns, but that would be part of what I'd anticipate a school with a IEP would consider in working with your family. [/QUOTE]
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