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Really, really, REALLY need your help. Falling apart. Son's marriage related.
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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 300325" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Just my opinion here, but this is what I would do...... I wouldn't get involved in ANY issue between your DS and daughter in law and do nothing more but let DS vent to you, without offering an opinion or saying anything negative about his wife. BUT, I would tell DS that I wanted a congenial (if it can't be "likable") relationship with daughter in law and I would write her a letter. Not a mushy, apologetic letter and not a letter full of negativity. I would just say that I would like to try to mend some fences and have a better relationship and that I am concerned that some of the conflict might be due to a misunderstanding (not mentioning anything about anyone relaying stories), and explain the situation about your typical grandmother reactions regarding your grandson's eyesight. No accusations and no defensiveness- just trying to improve a relationship and clarify possible misinterpretations.</p><p></p><p>That's just what I would do because whether they stay married or not, it is not a good thing to have conflict between you and daughter in law if you can help it. As my son suggested to me lately ( <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> ), sometimes communicating thru letters is much more effective. If this could open the door for her to get some concerns off her chest to you regarding your all's relationship, it could go a long way in changing the attitudes that are standing in the way of you having a better situation with your grandson.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 300325, member: 3699"] Just my opinion here, but this is what I would do...... I wouldn't get involved in ANY issue between your DS and daughter in law and do nothing more but let DS vent to you, without offering an opinion or saying anything negative about his wife. BUT, I would tell DS that I wanted a congenial (if it can't be "likable") relationship with daughter in law and I would write her a letter. Not a mushy, apologetic letter and not a letter full of negativity. I would just say that I would like to try to mend some fences and have a better relationship and that I am concerned that some of the conflict might be due to a misunderstanding (not mentioning anything about anyone relaying stories), and explain the situation about your typical grandmother reactions regarding your grandson's eyesight. No accusations and no defensiveness- just trying to improve a relationship and clarify possible misinterpretations. That's just what I would do because whether they stay married or not, it is not a good thing to have conflict between you and daughter in law if you can help it. As my son suggested to me lately ( :) ), sometimes communicating thru letters is much more effective. If this could open the door for her to get some concerns off her chest to you regarding your all's relationship, it could go a long way in changing the attitudes that are standing in the way of you having a better situation with your grandson. [/QUOTE]
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