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Really, really, REALLY need your help. Falling apart. Son's marriage related.
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<blockquote data-quote="muttmeister" data-source="post: 300429" data-attributes="member: 135"><p>I used to have a shirt that said, "Don't harrass the crazy person" (meaning me). Right now, for all practical purposes, your daughter in law is the crazy person. Keep that in your thoughts; it makes difficult people easier to deal with.</p><p> </p><p>If your son says he wants you to have no communication with her, I would respect his wishes. Listen to him if he wants to vent, but don't put yourself in the position of making him "choose" between his wife and his mother. </p><p> </p><p>As far as daughter in law "hating" you, so what? Maybe, when she sees how supportive you can be, she'll get over it. Maybe not, but in either case all you can do is be on your best behavior and try not to rattle her cage. I wouldn't get too hung up on the word "hate." During my time I have hated a few people but I also hate cooked spinach, fried liver, cold weather, country music singers who whine, a couple of Presidents, and a lot of other stuff. Hate is a word that can be devastating but it can also be a catch-all word that we use when we really aren't expressing ourselves very well. Don't let it become the major thing you think of when you think of her.</p><p> </p><p>If son stays married to her, kill her with kindness because you're going to have to put up with her anyway so you might as well make the best of it. If he does not stay married to her, kill her with kindness anyway, because of the grandchild. Either it will win her over or it will drive her crazy wondering what you're up to. Can't lose either way.</p><p> </p><p>Two things I've learned: (1) you can't pick who your kids marry. (2) you can't control other people; you can only control your reaction to them.</p><p> </p><p>Take a deep breath and let things work themselves out however they will. You can only do the best you can. After that, you just sit back and hope for the best.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="muttmeister, post: 300429, member: 135"] I used to have a shirt that said, "Don't harrass the crazy person" (meaning me). Right now, for all practical purposes, your daughter in law is the crazy person. Keep that in your thoughts; it makes difficult people easier to deal with. If your son says he wants you to have no communication with her, I would respect his wishes. Listen to him if he wants to vent, but don't put yourself in the position of making him "choose" between his wife and his mother. As far as daughter in law "hating" you, so what? Maybe, when she sees how supportive you can be, she'll get over it. Maybe not, but in either case all you can do is be on your best behavior and try not to rattle her cage. I wouldn't get too hung up on the word "hate." During my time I have hated a few people but I also hate cooked spinach, fried liver, cold weather, country music singers who whine, a couple of Presidents, and a lot of other stuff. Hate is a word that can be devastating but it can also be a catch-all word that we use when we really aren't expressing ourselves very well. Don't let it become the major thing you think of when you think of her. If son stays married to her, kill her with kindness because you're going to have to put up with her anyway so you might as well make the best of it. If he does not stay married to her, kill her with kindness anyway, because of the grandchild. Either it will win her over or it will drive her crazy wondering what you're up to. Can't lose either way. Two things I've learned: (1) you can't pick who your kids marry. (2) you can't control other people; you can only control your reaction to them. Take a deep breath and let things work themselves out however they will. You can only do the best you can. After that, you just sit back and hope for the best. [/QUOTE]
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