I've been away from this forum for quite some time and am now returning hoping that I can get some advice on dealing with new challenges that have arisen with my now 9 year old difficult child who has ADHD, ODD and Sensory Integration Disorder (SID). She is doing extremely well in school, however things at home have escalated and I am having a lot of difficulty with her, especially as far as hygiene is concerned. She continues to have wetting accidents, already has a considerable amount of body hair, and is beginning to smell. She is being very resistant to regular bathing, is rewearing her clothes, and especially underclothes, and will not allow me to show her how to shave her underarms or apply deodorant. Any attempts so far have led to complete meltdowns and are making me reticent to follow through. She will be moving onto a new school after next year, and I fear that if we don't get this in check while she is still in the nurturing environment she is currently in, that it will become a major problem. Any ideas, approaches that have worked for you, or references you can send me to would be most greatly appreciated!!! I've found such warm reception here before, and hope that you all will be willing to reach out and help again. Thanks for listening and I look forward to your comments. Regards, Holdingon Mom of 9 year old girl, with ADHD, ADD, ODD, and Sensory Integration Disorder (SID), currently non-medicated in a 12-1-1 class with a 1-1 para and receiving regular outside therapy, Occupational Therapist (OT) and PT. Currently reading and doing math above grade level and close to being pushed out for mainstream in two subjects next year.