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<blockquote data-quote="TheyAreLegallyAdultsNow" data-source="post: 382890" data-attributes="member: 8405"><p>Thanks to all!!!!!</p><p></p><p><strong><strong>CrazyinVA</strong></strong></p><p>I would not be at all surprised if there is something "more" than Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) here... While the behavior does "fit" Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), much of what I've read says that "if left untreated" it can "develop into" a variety of other conditions. In the counseling husband and I sought after our adopted kids Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) meltdowns... suggested their "very concerning behaviors" may be indicators of "more severe adult diagnoses." I'd like to say she runs short cycles through the "love-hate" thing... but that's not what I've witnessed. Distance makes her imaginary relationships thrive. I'm hoping the people surrounding her in "rescue mode" will wake up to the mental illness... and take steps to prevent her from doing something very dangerous. </p><p></p><p> <strong>Dammit Janet</strong></p><p>Seemingly all you gotta do is let our difficult child-daughter know you LOVE her and talk up your son to her... tell her you think it would be AWESOME for the two of them to get married... Oh... but wait... the woman "playing mommy" to our difficult child-daughter had kinda sorta promised our difficult child-daughter to HER son!!!! </p><p></p><p>Hmmmm... there seems to be a fine line between the mom pushing... and our difficult child-daughter finding "true love." </p><p></p><p><strong>dashcat</strong></p><p>Thanks Dash! It is comforting to know we're not along in this! </p><p>Interestingly enough, our difficult child-daughter doesn't have the history of hotly pursing "In Real Life" romances. She actually has routinely turned down many advances from many seemingly "suitable" young men.</p><p>She's had a few boyfriends over all... a couple of them that we've had long "Don't you see the Red Flags?!!!" conversations regarding. </p><p>I can pinpoint exactly where her "romantic delusions" started. It was her one (and only) semester out-of-state at college. That's also the place I can pinpoint where Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) behaviors began showing up again in-force... only we didn't recognize it as Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) returning until after her Meltdown last August. </p><p>We realized (after her Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) meltdown last August) that part of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) symptoms is the "cause and effect thinking part of the brain doesn't function well." </p><p>Usually our difficult child-daughter would "get it" eventually... but we ALWAYS had to discuss at length and ask her to consider the same type situation under several examples of much less-personal circumstances.</p><p></p><p><strong>Nancy</strong></p><p>Thank you Nancy... There certainly are "issues common to adopted individuals." I'm grateful for your encouragement. </p><p></p><p>I may not show up on these boards frequently... but I AM SOOOOOOO GRATEFUL for every parent here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheyAreLegallyAdultsNow, post: 382890, member: 8405"] Thanks to all!!!!! [B][B]CrazyinVA[/B][/B] I would not be at all surprised if there is something "more" than Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) here... While the behavior does "fit" Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), much of what I've read says that "if left untreated" it can "develop into" a variety of other conditions. In the counseling husband and I sought after our adopted kids Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) meltdowns... suggested their "very concerning behaviors" may be indicators of "more severe adult diagnoses." I'd like to say she runs short cycles through the "love-hate" thing... but that's not what I've witnessed. Distance makes her imaginary relationships thrive. I'm hoping the people surrounding her in "rescue mode" will wake up to the mental illness... and take steps to prevent her from doing something very dangerous. [B]Dammit Janet[/B] Seemingly all you gotta do is let our difficult child-daughter know you LOVE her and talk up your son to her... tell her you think it would be AWESOME for the two of them to get married... Oh... but wait... the woman "playing mommy" to our difficult child-daughter had kinda sorta promised our difficult child-daughter to HER son!!!! Hmmmm... there seems to be a fine line between the mom pushing... and our difficult child-daughter finding "true love." [B]dashcat[/B] Thanks Dash! It is comforting to know we're not along in this! Interestingly enough, our difficult child-daughter doesn't have the history of hotly pursing "In Real Life" romances. She actually has routinely turned down many advances from many seemingly "suitable" young men. She's had a few boyfriends over all... a couple of them that we've had long "Don't you see the Red Flags?!!!" conversations regarding. I can pinpoint exactly where her "romantic delusions" started. It was her one (and only) semester out-of-state at college. That's also the place I can pinpoint where Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) behaviors began showing up again in-force... only we didn't recognize it as Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) returning until after her Meltdown last August. We realized (after her Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) meltdown last August) that part of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) symptoms is the "cause and effect thinking part of the brain doesn't function well." Usually our difficult child-daughter would "get it" eventually... but we ALWAYS had to discuss at length and ask her to consider the same type situation under several examples of much less-personal circumstances. [B]Nancy[/B] Thank you Nancy... There certainly are "issues common to adopted individuals." I'm grateful for your encouragement. I may not show up on these boards frequently... but I AM SOOOOOOO GRATEFUL for every parent here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! [/QUOTE]
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