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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 374778" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Hey Mog, </p><p> </p><p>With regards to SSI? You had to have an attorney right? Go back to him and say LOOK - NO ONE can live on 2/3'rds of their supposed income. You need to lower the payment over a longer period of time or something. They did do that with DF. By the time he got his "settlement" we were so broke we couldn't even pay attention. We had sold everything - stocks, bonds, vehicles, motorcycle, boat....and everyone said "Well you SHOULD have that BIG settle ment coming?" (them thinking woo hoo party at the Dragonass Ranch) and yeah let me tell you it took SSI nearly 5 years and three times they lost DF's social security card and Birth certificate - okay not a big deal - YOU tell that to the 98 year old woman that runs the post office/vital statistics/quiliting bee/grainery scale in poe-dunk No-Dakey....and have her climb up and down the steep wooden basement steps to the records room in the Spring, now the Winter - and Oh uffda - for sure dare - dats a lot of boxes and we have to wait until da boys come in frum bailing, now cultivating, now calvin....YEAH!!.....feel your pain like you can't believe. </p><p> </p><p>So when Workers Comp finally got their head out of their .......tail pipe, and SSI didn't turn him down the third time and everyone actually SAW me sitting in the room (oh is that a real hat Star? Purple wide brim, with feathers like Huggy Bear from Starsky and Hutch?) yeaaaaaahs it is. We finally got some money - BUT then ssi SAID - oh YOU OWE, YOU OWE.....AND that IS WHEN WE WENT BACK TO THE LAME=O ATTORNEY. </p><p> </p><p>SO THATs my advice on that. </p><p> </p><p>As far as the car and cleaning and all that other stuff? I think you did well. I mean nothing there was anything you couldn't NOT do - so you did it, it's done. and NOW you can relax. GOOD FOR YOU. </p><p> </p><p>difficult child? I need, I need, YOU ARE NOT FAIR. Ahhhhhh the proverbial WHINER....MEMEMEMEm.......eeeeee. I would call his therapist or counselor and explain that his phone calls to you and your house are upsetting. You and your house are ALSO trying to unmesh from his behaviors and YOUR THERAPIST (insert my name if you must) suggested that perhaps scheduled telephone calls would be best instead of allowing him random access to calling you with guilt trip " I NEED< you DON'T, YOU THIS , YOU THAT," because Residential Treatment Center (RTC) should be about HIM HIM HIM not YOU YOU YOU. This is an unproductive thing he is doing, it's becoming a bad habit, and before it becomes a habit period? You want him monitored. yes you want him to call.....NO you do not want him to call randomly with his 'guilt trips" . Maybe he could talk to you when the counselor is in the room with him? THAT should cut down the FEEL SO SORRY FOR ME bullcarp. The other thing I would suggest is Caller ID. See his name? Don't answer. Counselors number would be different than the phone clients use ---so that would tell you who it is. </p><p> </p><p>Okay - now he's on SSI - and you are unemployed? There are a lot of programs out there to assist you until you get back on your feet. PM me - and let me know where you are and I'll tell you about what I found so far where I am. Federal is federal - so it should help you too. There should be state assistance too - you just don't know (like I didn't either) where to go to ask for help. Also prescriptions. </p><p> </p><p>hUGS & LOVE </p><p>STAR</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 374778, member: 4964"] Hey Mog, With regards to SSI? You had to have an attorney right? Go back to him and say LOOK - NO ONE can live on 2/3'rds of their supposed income. You need to lower the payment over a longer period of time or something. They did do that with DF. By the time he got his "settlement" we were so broke we couldn't even pay attention. We had sold everything - stocks, bonds, vehicles, motorcycle, boat....and everyone said "Well you SHOULD have that BIG settle ment coming?" (them thinking woo hoo party at the Dragonass Ranch) and yeah let me tell you it took SSI nearly 5 years and three times they lost DF's social security card and Birth certificate - okay not a big deal - YOU tell that to the 98 year old woman that runs the post office/vital statistics/quiliting bee/grainery scale in poe-dunk No-Dakey....and have her climb up and down the steep wooden basement steps to the records room in the Spring, now the Winter - and Oh uffda - for sure dare - dats a lot of boxes and we have to wait until da boys come in frum bailing, now cultivating, now calvin....YEAH!!.....feel your pain like you can't believe. So when Workers Comp finally got their head out of their .......tail pipe, and SSI didn't turn him down the third time and everyone actually SAW me sitting in the room (oh is that a real hat Star? Purple wide brim, with feathers like Huggy Bear from Starsky and Hutch?) yeaaaaaahs it is. We finally got some money - BUT then ssi SAID - oh YOU OWE, YOU OWE.....AND that IS WHEN WE WENT BACK TO THE LAME=O ATTORNEY. SO THATs my advice on that. As far as the car and cleaning and all that other stuff? I think you did well. I mean nothing there was anything you couldn't NOT do - so you did it, it's done. and NOW you can relax. GOOD FOR YOU. difficult child? I need, I need, YOU ARE NOT FAIR. Ahhhhhh the proverbial WHINER....MEMEMEMEm.......eeeeee. I would call his therapist or counselor and explain that his phone calls to you and your house are upsetting. You and your house are ALSO trying to unmesh from his behaviors and YOUR THERAPIST (insert my name if you must) suggested that perhaps scheduled telephone calls would be best instead of allowing him random access to calling you with guilt trip " I NEED< you DON'T, YOU THIS , YOU THAT," because Residential Treatment Center (RTC) should be about HIM HIM HIM not YOU YOU YOU. This is an unproductive thing he is doing, it's becoming a bad habit, and before it becomes a habit period? You want him monitored. yes you want him to call.....NO you do not want him to call randomly with his 'guilt trips" . Maybe he could talk to you when the counselor is in the room with him? THAT should cut down the FEEL SO SORRY FOR ME bullcarp. The other thing I would suggest is Caller ID. See his name? Don't answer. Counselors number would be different than the phone clients use ---so that would tell you who it is. Okay - now he's on SSI - and you are unemployed? There are a lot of programs out there to assist you until you get back on your feet. PM me - and let me know where you are and I'll tell you about what I found so far where I am. Federal is federal - so it should help you too. There should be state assistance too - you just don't know (like I didn't either) where to go to ask for help. Also prescriptions. hUGS & LOVE STAR [/QUOTE]
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