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Rude, disrespectful, WHY WHY WHY did I agree to this?
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<blockquote data-quote="PennyFromTheBlock" data-source="post: 678442" data-attributes="member: 18271"><p>I do owe you all a big kudos- because through reading here and learning- I'm learning ways to show strength. At one point, he started asking why I had chosen to not speak to him the last few days- and I started to explain MY reasoning (which was, I was trying to help you by allowing you to stay here- and I found that you purposely found reasons to ignite a problem - the video - and then invariably would turn things on me, take my words out of context, etc- so I decided that rather than live in turmoil with a debate all the time about minutia, I chose to just be silent, and it was my RIGHT to do that) - well, as they tend to do, he starts TELLING me how I'm supposed to feel. I stopped- I told him this was my home, I'm a grown woman, and not him or anyone else can tell me how to FEEL inside. And that THIS was the problem. Instead of LISTENING and taking some accountability- he did this. And I walked away- indicating to him that I was DONE discussing it- because I do NOT have to JUSTIFY how I FEEL in my OWN HOME.</p><p></p><p>I thank you all for that. 2 years ago I would have cried and been trying to make HIM feel better.</p><p></p><p>Not saying I didn't cry, because I did. I told him he would cut off his nose to spite his face. To "prove" a point that wasn't going to help him later.</p><p></p><p>Thank you New Leaf for your kind words. I wish one of y'all were close to me to give me a hug! You know how sometimes you just need a hug? </p><p></p><p>As far as the baby- My son will need me before I need him. He runs off at the mouth about that, but he knows what's good for him where the baby is concerned. If not, I've made it a POINT to maintain my emotions/feelings about the baby's mother - she will be my portal to the baby if my son isn't.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PennyFromTheBlock, post: 678442, member: 18271"] I do owe you all a big kudos- because through reading here and learning- I'm learning ways to show strength. At one point, he started asking why I had chosen to not speak to him the last few days- and I started to explain MY reasoning (which was, I was trying to help you by allowing you to stay here- and I found that you purposely found reasons to ignite a problem - the video - and then invariably would turn things on me, take my words out of context, etc- so I decided that rather than live in turmoil with a debate all the time about minutia, I chose to just be silent, and it was my RIGHT to do that) - well, as they tend to do, he starts TELLING me how I'm supposed to feel. I stopped- I told him this was my home, I'm a grown woman, and not him or anyone else can tell me how to FEEL inside. And that THIS was the problem. Instead of LISTENING and taking some accountability- he did this. And I walked away- indicating to him that I was DONE discussing it- because I do NOT have to JUSTIFY how I FEEL in my OWN HOME. I thank you all for that. 2 years ago I would have cried and been trying to make HIM feel better. Not saying I didn't cry, because I did. I told him he would cut off his nose to spite his face. To "prove" a point that wasn't going to help him later. Thank you New Leaf for your kind words. I wish one of y'all were close to me to give me a hug! You know how sometimes you just need a hug? As far as the baby- My son will need me before I need him. He runs off at the mouth about that, but he knows what's good for him where the baby is concerned. If not, I've made it a POINT to maintain my emotions/feelings about the baby's mother - she will be my portal to the baby if my son isn't. [/QUOTE]
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