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Rude, disrespectful, WHY WHY WHY did I agree to this?
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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 678477" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>This is so <em>right</em>, Penny, you do not have to justify how you feel in your own home. Really and truly, if our d cs are allowed under our good graces, into our homes for the <em>umpteenth</em> time,<em> it should be them walking on eggshells</em>, not us.</p><p></p><p>That would be huge, could you imagine? A respectful, conciliatory, appeasing, thoughtful adult child.</p><p>Happy to help out and decent behavior.</p><p>HUH.</p><p> <em>I will not hold my breath</em>.</p><p></p><p> The more I look back on all of the times I took mine in through the revolving door, they were okay for awhile, then just spiraled down into old behaviors.</p><p></p><p>It was almost as if they were saying "You think you can tell me what to do?"</p><p>You know what, the answer was and is,<em> I can't</em>.</p><p>I can't tell them what to do because they are adults, and they <em>want to do what they want to do.</em></p><p>I think they actually began to despise me, for having expectations......the nerve of me!</p><p></p><p>How could we make an unconditional offer?</p><p>This is genius Albie, of course we can't...."Sure, come on home and do whatever you want......."</p><p>It is infeasible to live the way our kids want to live with us, in our homes.</p><p></p><p>They want to have their cake and eat it too.</p><p></p><p>So, they will have to take their cake and eat it elsewhere.</p><p></p><p>Penny, I am so glad you have a solution to see your grandson.</p><p></p><p>Some day, one day, our kids will open their eyes.</p><p>I still pray for that to happen.</p><p>Until it does, I will not put up with what they so freely dish out.</p><p></p><p>It has been more than a heart can take.</p><p></p><p>We do not deserve to be mistreated, especially in our own homes, our sanctuary.</p><p></p><p>Take care Penny, stay strong and stay the course, you are doing really well.</p><p></p><p>(((HUGS and more hugs)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 678477, member: 19522"] This is so [I]right[/I], Penny, you do not have to justify how you feel in your own home. Really and truly, if our d cs are allowed under our good graces, into our homes for the [I]umpteenth[/I] time,[I] it should be them walking on eggshells[/I], not us. That would be huge, could you imagine? A respectful, conciliatory, appeasing, thoughtful adult child. Happy to help out and decent behavior. HUH. [I]I will not hold my breath[/I]. The more I look back on all of the times I took mine in through the revolving door, they were okay for awhile, then just spiraled down into old behaviors. It was almost as if they were saying "You think you can tell me what to do?" You know what, the answer was and is,[I] I can't[/I]. I can't tell them what to do because they are adults, and they [I]want to do what they want to do.[/I] I think they actually began to despise me, for having expectations......the nerve of me! How could we make an unconditional offer? This is genius Albie, of course we can't...."Sure, come on home and do whatever you want......." It is infeasible to live the way our kids want to live with us, in our homes. They want to have their cake and eat it too. So, they will have to take their cake and eat it elsewhere. Penny, I am so glad you have a solution to see your grandson. Some day, one day, our kids will open their eyes. I still pray for that to happen. Until it does, I will not put up with what they so freely dish out. It has been more than a heart can take. We do not deserve to be mistreated, especially in our own homes, our sanctuary. Take care Penny, stay strong and stay the course, you are doing really well. (((HUGS and more hugs))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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