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Rude, disrespectful, WHY WHY WHY did I agree to this?
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<blockquote data-quote="PennyFromTheBlock" data-source="post: 678480" data-attributes="member: 18271"><p>Ok- so this is going to be me rambling, but I have to get it out.</p><p></p><p>You know, I have to say I feel like a 1000 pound weight is lifted off my shoulders. I'm not sad or upset he's gone. I'm glad. </p><p></p><p>His sister (my daughter) texted earlier that she's going to let him stay with her on the nights he has the baby. The other nights, will depend.</p><p></p><p>I told her that this is not her responsibility- that it never works when they try this. She responded that she can relate to him better (being his sibling vs being his parent) and she worries for my health and my safety.</p><p></p><p>That does make me sad. </p><p></p><p>She is able to speak logic to him - and he did text me an apology. A LONNNNNNNNNNNNGGGGGGGGGGGGGG text. To which I simply replied "I appreciate your apology". No more, no hashing it out, no trying to explan or give advice or lecture or anything.</p><p></p><p>I know I went into this arrangement apprehensive but with good intentions. </p><p></p><p>He may never 'grow up' and realize any of this. I've almost come to peace with this as well.</p><p></p><p>I feel bad to the degree that his life will be SO HARD if he doesn't get help. I hate that FOR him. He did, through tears after the hyped up drama piece calmed down, say that he needs to go and see what medications he should get to help him. Getting him to admit and acknowledge that his mental health issues are REAL and HE must be the one that decides to get help and WANT help- is on him- it's the ONLY way he gets better. There are many that lead full productive lives with help. He can. I can't make him. </p><p></p><p>I wish I knew then what I know now- I'd have gotten him more help- I chalked a lot up to his immaturity and that he'd "grow up" and "grow out of it"- I didn't have the information then that I do now. I had/have no experience with mental problems like this. </p><p></p><p>/sigh. It's going to be ok.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PennyFromTheBlock, post: 678480, member: 18271"] Ok- so this is going to be me rambling, but I have to get it out. You know, I have to say I feel like a 1000 pound weight is lifted off my shoulders. I'm not sad or upset he's gone. I'm glad. His sister (my daughter) texted earlier that she's going to let him stay with her on the nights he has the baby. The other nights, will depend. I told her that this is not her responsibility- that it never works when they try this. She responded that she can relate to him better (being his sibling vs being his parent) and she worries for my health and my safety. That does make me sad. She is able to speak logic to him - and he did text me an apology. A LONNNNNNNNNNNNGGGGGGGGGGGGGG text. To which I simply replied "I appreciate your apology". No more, no hashing it out, no trying to explan or give advice or lecture or anything. I know I went into this arrangement apprehensive but with good intentions. He may never 'grow up' and realize any of this. I've almost come to peace with this as well. I feel bad to the degree that his life will be SO HARD if he doesn't get help. I hate that FOR him. He did, through tears after the hyped up drama piece calmed down, say that he needs to go and see what medications he should get to help him. Getting him to admit and acknowledge that his mental health issues are REAL and HE must be the one that decides to get help and WANT help- is on him- it's the ONLY way he gets better. There are many that lead full productive lives with help. He can. I can't make him. I wish I knew then what I know now- I'd have gotten him more help- I chalked a lot up to his immaturity and that he'd "grow up" and "grow out of it"- I didn't have the information then that I do now. I had/have no experience with mental problems like this. /sigh. It's going to be ok. [/QUOTE]
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