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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 122349" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so sorry you are having to cope with this. It must be terribly hard. I would find a doctor who specialized in geriatrics, and a neurologist. </p><p> </p><p>medications, lots of things could be causing/contributing to the problems.</p><p> </p><p>I KNOW that if my gma had not had an assisted living facility she would have died many years before she did. And her life would NOT have been nearly as nice or half as much fun.</p><p> </p><p>The ALF my gma was in had 2 towers. The low-care side had all meals provided (and they had little mini-kitchens in their rooms). A staff member could help with baths, minor care things. If they didn't come home after they signed out, then an alert was sent out earlier than would otherwise have been. They were ASKED to sign out, but no one was penalized for not signing out unless they were gone through several meals or a full day with-o letting anyone know. It was a safety thing. Many still had cars, but there was a van to take them places also. AndLOTS of activities like meals out, shows, boat trips (it was in Florida), all sorts of entertainment.</p><p> </p><p>The more care unit was a separate tower. It was NOT a skilled nursing facility, but they did have an RN to dispense medications, they could be wheeled or just accompanied down to the cafeteria, and still were allowed to go on as many outings as they could. </p><p> </p><p>There is a wide range of quality in ALF's, from what I hear. It may be worth looking into.</p><p> </p><p>As for the car, is she truly capable of driving safely? I am asking, I have NO idea the answer, just know it is a really HARD decision for family to make. Maybe a discussion with someone at the police dept would give you some criteria to make this decision?</p><p> </p><p>As to who makes her health/other decisions, does 1 of you have a durable medical power of attorney, other power of attorney, or whatever papers your state deems necessary? It is worth the hassle when she is lucid, because in many states if you wait until she is not then the state makes the decisions, or makes it harder for you to make them.</p><p> </p><p>Again, so very sorry,</p><p> </p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 122349, member: 1233"] I am so sorry you are having to cope with this. It must be terribly hard. I would find a doctor who specialized in geriatrics, and a neurologist. medications, lots of things could be causing/contributing to the problems. I KNOW that if my gma had not had an assisted living facility she would have died many years before she did. And her life would NOT have been nearly as nice or half as much fun. The ALF my gma was in had 2 towers. The low-care side had all meals provided (and they had little mini-kitchens in their rooms). A staff member could help with baths, minor care things. If they didn't come home after they signed out, then an alert was sent out earlier than would otherwise have been. They were ASKED to sign out, but no one was penalized for not signing out unless they were gone through several meals or a full day with-o letting anyone know. It was a safety thing. Many still had cars, but there was a van to take them places also. AndLOTS of activities like meals out, shows, boat trips (it was in Florida), all sorts of entertainment. The more care unit was a separate tower. It was NOT a skilled nursing facility, but they did have an RN to dispense medications, they could be wheeled or just accompanied down to the cafeteria, and still were allowed to go on as many outings as they could. There is a wide range of quality in ALF's, from what I hear. It may be worth looking into. As for the car, is she truly capable of driving safely? I am asking, I have NO idea the answer, just know it is a really HARD decision for family to make. Maybe a discussion with someone at the police dept would give you some criteria to make this decision? As to who makes her health/other decisions, does 1 of you have a durable medical power of attorney, other power of attorney, or whatever papers your state deems necessary? It is worth the hassle when she is lucid, because in many states if you wait until she is not then the state makes the decisions, or makes it harder for you to make them. Again, so very sorry, Susie [/QUOTE]
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