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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 291302" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I totally think you need to tell husband that you feel that you are in danger. Both of you know he was physically violent with his mother. It is very logical that you are next. It seems like it is only a matter of time until he gets violent with you. If husband won't believe he says these things to you, and that they are serious, can you trust husband to believe that SS was physically violent with you when husband wasn't home? </p><p></p><p>You have every right to feel safe in your own home. Period. No Exceptions. </p><p></p><p>Today you must start to put together a kit with a few changes of clothing, pajamas, toiletries, copies of insurance stuff, bank stuff, marriage license, birth certificate, social security stuff, and as much cash as you can accumulate. Store this in the trunk of your car or in another place that only you can get into. Or at a good friend's house or a relatives home. Abusers are most dangerous when they think you are going to escape them. So don't let SS know you are doing this. </p><p></p><p>Then go to a hotel or friend's home. Tell husband that as long as SS is there you will not be. His son is a man. husband is not letting son grow up, it is unhealthy for everyone concerned. I don't know why husband will not make his son take adult responsibilities, and I don't think it really matters.</p><p></p><p>If SS is violent or threatening to you before you leave, call 911. File a report. Don't drop the charges. </p><p></p><p>I personally would not WANT a relationship with a man who didn't believe me when I said that someone threatened me. No matter who that person was. Are you sure you want to stay in the relationship with your husband? If you do, then you will need to seek out therapy so that you and husband can work through all the feelings you both have regarding this situation. </p><p></p><p>Trust those instincts that have you afraid. No matter what reasons husband gives you for his son's behavior, trust your instincts.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 291302, member: 1233"] I totally think you need to tell husband that you feel that you are in danger. Both of you know he was physically violent with his mother. It is very logical that you are next. It seems like it is only a matter of time until he gets violent with you. If husband won't believe he says these things to you, and that they are serious, can you trust husband to believe that SS was physically violent with you when husband wasn't home? You have every right to feel safe in your own home. Period. No Exceptions. Today you must start to put together a kit with a few changes of clothing, pajamas, toiletries, copies of insurance stuff, bank stuff, marriage license, birth certificate, social security stuff, and as much cash as you can accumulate. Store this in the trunk of your car or in another place that only you can get into. Or at a good friend's house or a relatives home. Abusers are most dangerous when they think you are going to escape them. So don't let SS know you are doing this. Then go to a hotel or friend's home. Tell husband that as long as SS is there you will not be. His son is a man. husband is not letting son grow up, it is unhealthy for everyone concerned. I don't know why husband will not make his son take adult responsibilities, and I don't think it really matters. If SS is violent or threatening to you before you leave, call 911. File a report. Don't drop the charges. I personally would not WANT a relationship with a man who didn't believe me when I said that someone threatened me. No matter who that person was. Are you sure you want to stay in the relationship with your husband? If you do, then you will need to seek out therapy so that you and husband can work through all the feelings you both have regarding this situation. Trust those instincts that have you afraid. No matter what reasons husband gives you for his son's behavior, trust your instincts. [/QUOTE]
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