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<blockquote data-quote="lkleiv77" data-source="post: 500747" data-attributes="member: 13663"><p>Thank you all so much for the quick replies.</p><p>The ghosts - here is the odd part, right after it started, we had a stuffed ghosts on our front porch for Halloween. L said, its Halloween, why do we have a snowman out? We told him it was a ghost not a snowman and for 10 minutes he insisted it was a snowman, that wasn't what ghosts looked like. He hasn't mentioned it since he was about 4. I am the type of person that does believe there are powers out there that could be watching us and keeping and eye out so as scary as it was at first, it didn't really bother me. He never interacted with "it" and he never seemed scared. I can be 100% certain that there was no abuse at daycare. I was very closley involved with the school and the people he would have interacted with. With the night terrors, I would always hear him tooting. Research told me that this was normal - mostly for boys starting potting training. Their bodies would be starting to recognize "having to go" but not enough to wake them up to do it. Hence the terrors. He still has very restless sleep. He is in the bottom of a bunk bed and I can't forsee anytime in the near future I would allow him to go to the top. The acting out all seemed to start when I was pregnant with my middle guy. Of course that was the reasoning everyone put to it. L was not at all upset by E coming along, in fact he was overjoyed. </p><p>When he was little I would call him the mayor. He could walk into a room and start playing with anyone. It isn't' like that now. He seems to preffer to be alone and play. I think it has gotten to the point where he has to because no one wants to play with him because he can be so mean. He can be (dare I say the word) a bully. On the playground he would throw rocks at someone, I honestly think he is just playing and not trying to hurt them. Or he is just that kid that is trying to nudge you along to talk during class not caring if you will get in trouble. I have tried to explaain to him what a bully is and that people will not want to be his friend. He is sad for a minute then he (in the middle of this conversation) says, can I wear my red pj's tonight? Like we weren't even talking about something. It has gotten to the point where kids don't want to play with him and that kills me! If people could see him at home with his brother 3 and sister 1 - he is so different. If his brother took his favorite drawing and ripped it to peices and I was putting him in timeout, L would come and scream at me and be angry with me for putting his brother in time out. L would take the last bit of candy out of his mouth and give it to E just to make him happy. Obviously this doesn't do well for teaching E, lol. He is just so sweet and cuddly and loving when he is in a good place, but it changes so quickly and it seems to change much more randomly these days. I used to think he had no remorse for doing things (hitting kicking, stealing) now I just think he doesn't know why it was wrong until hours after he does it.</p><p>Like I said earlier, my head is just so clouded with all of these actions and all the reading I have done that I can't be sure I am reading more into certain things then I should be.</p><p>Here is an example from just tonight - Since L was downstairs playing so nicly on the computer and E was upstairs enjoying what he was doing I let them have an extra few minutes b4 bed. I did let them both know it was extra bcause they were being so good. When it was time I called L up and he unexpectedly came right up with no moans or fights. Getting pjs out he asked if he could have dessert. In my effort to pick my battles I said yes, lets just do jammies 1st. He moaned and whined and said "FINE" and proceeded to dramatically kick dwn his pants and then rip them off all in a giant huff" Calmly I asked why he did that, I had said yes! He just kept saying, I don't know.</p><p></p><p>As far as the hands in his pants, I made a mental note for today to tell him to stop each and every time I saw it. Finnally the last time he said would you stop telling me that, I'm itchy. I told him that if he was I need to make sure he is okay since he shouldn't be that itchy all the time. He took his hands out and not a second later was scratching his head. - could this be some sort of coping thing? </p><p></p><p>Someone mentioned Aspergers below and I have though of it myself. We were in burger king one day and a light was flashing as if it was ready to blow out. He kept saying to my mother and I - the light is flashing, look look. He didn't stop until we all looked and acknowledged it. We told him it was probably going to die and someone would cahnge it. He proceeded to insist we told someone immediatley. Luckily we were able to distract him with something else.</p><p></p><p>Well, I think I will be up for the next several hours checking my insurance plan for some names Occupational Therapist (OT)'s and Nuerophsys - thank you all so much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lkleiv77, post: 500747, member: 13663"] Thank you all so much for the quick replies. The ghosts - here is the odd part, right after it started, we had a stuffed ghosts on our front porch for Halloween. L said, its Halloween, why do we have a snowman out? We told him it was a ghost not a snowman and for 10 minutes he insisted it was a snowman, that wasn't what ghosts looked like. He hasn't mentioned it since he was about 4. I am the type of person that does believe there are powers out there that could be watching us and keeping and eye out so as scary as it was at first, it didn't really bother me. He never interacted with "it" and he never seemed scared. I can be 100% certain that there was no abuse at daycare. I was very closley involved with the school and the people he would have interacted with. With the night terrors, I would always hear him tooting. Research told me that this was normal - mostly for boys starting potting training. Their bodies would be starting to recognize "having to go" but not enough to wake them up to do it. Hence the terrors. He still has very restless sleep. He is in the bottom of a bunk bed and I can't forsee anytime in the near future I would allow him to go to the top. The acting out all seemed to start when I was pregnant with my middle guy. Of course that was the reasoning everyone put to it. L was not at all upset by E coming along, in fact he was overjoyed. When he was little I would call him the mayor. He could walk into a room and start playing with anyone. It isn't' like that now. He seems to preffer to be alone and play. I think it has gotten to the point where he has to because no one wants to play with him because he can be so mean. He can be (dare I say the word) a bully. On the playground he would throw rocks at someone, I honestly think he is just playing and not trying to hurt them. Or he is just that kid that is trying to nudge you along to talk during class not caring if you will get in trouble. I have tried to explaain to him what a bully is and that people will not want to be his friend. He is sad for a minute then he (in the middle of this conversation) says, can I wear my red pj's tonight? Like we weren't even talking about something. It has gotten to the point where kids don't want to play with him and that kills me! If people could see him at home with his brother 3 and sister 1 - he is so different. If his brother took his favorite drawing and ripped it to peices and I was putting him in timeout, L would come and scream at me and be angry with me for putting his brother in time out. L would take the last bit of candy out of his mouth and give it to E just to make him happy. Obviously this doesn't do well for teaching E, lol. He is just so sweet and cuddly and loving when he is in a good place, but it changes so quickly and it seems to change much more randomly these days. I used to think he had no remorse for doing things (hitting kicking, stealing) now I just think he doesn't know why it was wrong until hours after he does it. Like I said earlier, my head is just so clouded with all of these actions and all the reading I have done that I can't be sure I am reading more into certain things then I should be. Here is an example from just tonight - Since L was downstairs playing so nicly on the computer and E was upstairs enjoying what he was doing I let them have an extra few minutes b4 bed. I did let them both know it was extra bcause they were being so good. When it was time I called L up and he unexpectedly came right up with no moans or fights. Getting pjs out he asked if he could have dessert. In my effort to pick my battles I said yes, lets just do jammies 1st. He moaned and whined and said "FINE" and proceeded to dramatically kick dwn his pants and then rip them off all in a giant huff" Calmly I asked why he did that, I had said yes! He just kept saying, I don't know. As far as the hands in his pants, I made a mental note for today to tell him to stop each and every time I saw it. Finnally the last time he said would you stop telling me that, I'm itchy. I told him that if he was I need to make sure he is okay since he shouldn't be that itchy all the time. He took his hands out and not a second later was scratching his head. - could this be some sort of coping thing? Someone mentioned Aspergers below and I have though of it myself. We were in burger king one day and a light was flashing as if it was ready to blow out. He kept saying to my mother and I - the light is flashing, look look. He didn't stop until we all looked and acknowledged it. We told him it was probably going to die and someone would cahnge it. He proceeded to insist we told someone immediatley. Luckily we were able to distract him with something else. Well, I think I will be up for the next several hours checking my insurance plan for some names Occupational Therapist (OT)'s and Nuerophsys - thank you all so much. [/QUOTE]
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