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Scary Incident with difficult child and Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker at the Library
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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 469401" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Really I agree with all of you. My mind went all over the place. The librarian said that Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker really tried to explain to the dad and he just kept yelling and I think she was really scared. The librarian said she herself was really scared. Why she didn't tell him she was gonna call the police? And I have talked to difficult child about how that was "unexpected" (that's the word they use at school when he does something someone gets upset about even if it is not mean) and the reason he was near her was because it was the computer he was assigned to (they sign up and get on to the one that the next person leaves). I felt too she (yes she was just 15-16ish they said) probably did get overly dramatic because she had no idea he was autistic. And if she had some trauma or something, WHY in hell would they ever let her be in a major metro public library ALONE??? THAT I would never do. </p><p></p><p>For sure we are using it to help difficult child continue to learn boundaries, about other's perceptions etc. I said, well how do you think she felt? He said, </p><p>"well she didn't say anything" I said, well what did her face say...remember you have to look at what the face and body says too. He said "well I was looking at her face and my face was talking to her face so she should have known what I meant". He said he did not mean to hurt her, he was just playing. It had to be pretty subtle because both the Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker and the librarian could see him.</p><p></p><p>I did call Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker to make sure she was okay and to tell her that the librarian said she thought she did a good job of being strong at the time, even if she felt scared after. She said there is nothing anyone could have said to him. He was comitted to his position and couldn't admit he was wrong at that point. </p><p></p><p>We talked about better places to go to read etc. but he really likes to do some computer time too so I will just make sure that Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) folks are closer so they can see how people around him are reacting too, just in case they are missing something. </p><p></p><p>Nothing is simple. It just makes me worry for the future. I still worry he is going to provoke someone unwittingly and get beat up or killed.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 469401, member: 12886"] Really I agree with all of you. My mind went all over the place. The librarian said that Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker really tried to explain to the dad and he just kept yelling and I think she was really scared. The librarian said she herself was really scared. Why she didn't tell him she was gonna call the police? And I have talked to difficult child about how that was "unexpected" (that's the word they use at school when he does something someone gets upset about even if it is not mean) and the reason he was near her was because it was the computer he was assigned to (they sign up and get on to the one that the next person leaves). I felt too she (yes she was just 15-16ish they said) probably did get overly dramatic because she had no idea he was autistic. And if she had some trauma or something, WHY in hell would they ever let her be in a major metro public library ALONE??? THAT I would never do. For sure we are using it to help difficult child continue to learn boundaries, about other's perceptions etc. I said, well how do you think she felt? He said, "well she didn't say anything" I said, well what did her face say...remember you have to look at what the face and body says too. He said "well I was looking at her face and my face was talking to her face so she should have known what I meant". He said he did not mean to hurt her, he was just playing. It had to be pretty subtle because both the Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker and the librarian could see him. I did call Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker to make sure she was okay and to tell her that the librarian said she thought she did a good job of being strong at the time, even if she felt scared after. She said there is nothing anyone could have said to him. He was comitted to his position and couldn't admit he was wrong at that point. We talked about better places to go to read etc. but he really likes to do some computer time too so I will just make sure that Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) folks are closer so they can see how people around him are reacting too, just in case they are missing something. Nothing is simple. It just makes me worry for the future. I still worry he is going to provoke someone unwittingly and get beat up or killed. [/QUOTE]
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