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<blockquote data-quote="Kjs" data-source="post: 82978"><p>I read all your posts, from other posts too. I was literally shaking when I went in. I tried to remember all your advice.</p><p>I did write down everything. Yes he has an IEP. He has a cool off pass which states on IEP, "If student or teacher notice anxiety/frustration levels rising he is to use his cool off pass" He was suppose to have a few different people he can go talk to in order to keep him from the office. Just regroup and return to class. </p><p>First of all, nobody knew he had an IEP. Then, nobody gave him the passes and no teacher was aware of it. So, then the teachers were given a large 8x10 copy of the pass, and difficult child was given smaller ones. Well, that lasted a day and he lost it. So they placed it on his lanyard/ID permanantly.</p><p>Still, teachers do not use it. HE does. He says he needs to use his cool off pass and tells them who he is going to see. Last time he did this the teacher called the office and said he just walked out of class.</p><p>So..today. Thank you for your prayers and strength. It worked. I held my cool. I discussed the incident yesterday. Explained why he didn't run in gym and he would not be in gym until the test results are in. Told me they have to have the slip from the doctor, which I forgot at the Dr.'s. She said I could have them fax it in.</p><p>difficult child arrived and joined us. He was tired. I was angry with him and made him stay up until ALL his homework was complete. Missing work and all. He was up until after midnight. But all is complete that we know of. So, he was yawning and stretching.</p><p>She asked him what happened yesterday and he told her. She asked several times and he gave the same answer.</p><p>I told her I do not appreciate being lied to by VP and I don't appreciate him getting in difficult child's face and accusing him of things without even asking. Then threatening both of us.</p><p>Told her there was NO mention of suspension until I started asking questions. Then he threatened to make difficult child walk home. So I went to school and then he said if we didn't leave he would make it TWO days suspension. I told her how he laughed in my face when I requested to see her. She was in a meeting so he laughed and said, "Hah..she's in a meeting". I told her of how he gets in difficult child's face. We then went over the referral and she agreed that the real truth is somewhere between what the teacher said and what difficult child said. That everyone interprets things their own way. I talked about the teachers and the silly reasons he is being removed from class. She wrote that down. I told her about two grades he had and teacher won't tell him why, so I emailed her asking if he left something out that we weren't aware of. That was over a week ago and she did not reply. She wrote everything down. I felt much more comfortable. She asked difficult child who he would like to see when he needs to use his cool off pass. Wrote down a list of people ..his choice.</p><p>I asked since the teachers have this pass, can they request he use his pass if they or difficult child begomes frustrated. She said yes.</p><p>Then she said, "well Alex, you won't be here today, but when you return..." Whooah I say. This suspension I want lifted. Again went back to the gym incident and why. She said she thinks it is because of the confrontation between difficult child and VP. difficult child says, "yea, he kept telling me I did all these things and I didn't". She then said she cannot overturn VP's decision. WHAT??she is HIS boss. She said she will keep difficult child in her office and investigate. He asked if he could go home. I said I want him IN class and this ridiculous referral and suspension thrown out. Again she said the same. Said she would keep him in his office. OR she said he can come home until she calls. I told her he is to BE IN CLASS where he can learn. She said she would call me. He BETTER be going back to class. He has tests to take. </p><p>So, after going through different approaches to frustration and he agree's, seems to be fine. Then was really upset that I was making him stay at school. (he was very tired.eye puffy tired)</p><p></p><p>I told her that I did make contact with an advocy group. And I did send the superintedent a letter. I will not allow difficult child to be singled out, bullied, intimidated or threatened at all. I told her this has to end, so I do intend to follow up with the SD.</p><p></p><p>She said that was fine. She wouldn't tell me one way or another it is my decision.</p><p></p><p>Also..she asked difficult child if he would rather come to her than VP if need be. He said , "YYYEEEEESSSS" So he will be. Unless she is out of the building. She is much calmer, and was able to keep me calm. VP would of had me screaming. Been there once to many times.</p><p></p><p>I also told her VP told me the reason difficult child gets sent out so often is because even if people are talking to him or pushing him, the person who retaliates gets punished. I said WHAT?? So I can go punch someone out there and if they hit me back they are the one in trouble. He said yes. So, once again I reminded him of the ""NO TOLOERANCE LAW**</p><p></p><p>So all went ok today. If he is not back in class shortly I will go get him. And I do plan on following through to SD.</p><p></p><p>I have been up since 6 am Wednesday. So, time for bed. Just wanted to let you know. what happened. Once again you guys saved the day. Thanks for the advice.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kjs, post: 82978"] I read all your posts, from other posts too. I was literally shaking when I went in. I tried to remember all your advice. I did write down everything. Yes he has an IEP. He has a cool off pass which states on IEP, "If student or teacher notice anxiety/frustration levels rising he is to use his cool off pass" He was suppose to have a few different people he can go talk to in order to keep him from the office. Just regroup and return to class. First of all, nobody knew he had an IEP. Then, nobody gave him the passes and no teacher was aware of it. So, then the teachers were given a large 8x10 copy of the pass, and difficult child was given smaller ones. Well, that lasted a day and he lost it. So they placed it on his lanyard/ID permanantly. Still, teachers do not use it. HE does. He says he needs to use his cool off pass and tells them who he is going to see. Last time he did this the teacher called the office and said he just walked out of class. So..today. Thank you for your prayers and strength. It worked. I held my cool. I discussed the incident yesterday. Explained why he didn't run in gym and he would not be in gym until the test results are in. Told me they have to have the slip from the doctor, which I forgot at the Dr.'s. She said I could have them fax it in. difficult child arrived and joined us. He was tired. I was angry with him and made him stay up until ALL his homework was complete. Missing work and all. He was up until after midnight. But all is complete that we know of. So, he was yawning and stretching. She asked him what happened yesterday and he told her. She asked several times and he gave the same answer. I told her I do not appreciate being lied to by VP and I don't appreciate him getting in difficult child's face and accusing him of things without even asking. Then threatening both of us. Told her there was NO mention of suspension until I started asking questions. Then he threatened to make difficult child walk home. So I went to school and then he said if we didn't leave he would make it TWO days suspension. I told her how he laughed in my face when I requested to see her. She was in a meeting so he laughed and said, "Hah..she's in a meeting". I told her of how he gets in difficult child's face. We then went over the referral and she agreed that the real truth is somewhere between what the teacher said and what difficult child said. That everyone interprets things their own way. I talked about the teachers and the silly reasons he is being removed from class. She wrote that down. I told her about two grades he had and teacher won't tell him why, so I emailed her asking if he left something out that we weren't aware of. That was over a week ago and she did not reply. She wrote everything down. I felt much more comfortable. She asked difficult child who he would like to see when he needs to use his cool off pass. Wrote down a list of people ..his choice. I asked since the teachers have this pass, can they request he use his pass if they or difficult child begomes frustrated. She said yes. Then she said, "well Alex, you won't be here today, but when you return..." Whooah I say. This suspension I want lifted. Again went back to the gym incident and why. She said she thinks it is because of the confrontation between difficult child and VP. difficult child says, "yea, he kept telling me I did all these things and I didn't". She then said she cannot overturn VP's decision. WHAT??she is HIS boss. She said she will keep difficult child in her office and investigate. He asked if he could go home. I said I want him IN class and this ridiculous referral and suspension thrown out. Again she said the same. Said she would keep him in his office. OR she said he can come home until she calls. I told her he is to BE IN CLASS where he can learn. She said she would call me. He BETTER be going back to class. He has tests to take. So, after going through different approaches to frustration and he agree's, seems to be fine. Then was really upset that I was making him stay at school. (he was very tired.eye puffy tired) I told her that I did make contact with an advocy group. And I did send the superintedent a letter. I will not allow difficult child to be singled out, bullied, intimidated or threatened at all. I told her this has to end, so I do intend to follow up with the SD. She said that was fine. She wouldn't tell me one way or another it is my decision. Also..she asked difficult child if he would rather come to her than VP if need be. He said , "YYYEEEEESSSS" So he will be. Unless she is out of the building. She is much calmer, and was able to keep me calm. VP would of had me screaming. Been there once to many times. I also told her VP told me the reason difficult child gets sent out so often is because even if people are talking to him or pushing him, the person who retaliates gets punished. I said WHAT?? So I can go punch someone out there and if they hit me back they are the one in trouble. He said yes. So, once again I reminded him of the ""NO TOLOERANCE LAW** So all went ok today. If he is not back in class shortly I will go get him. And I do plan on following through to SD. I have been up since 6 am Wednesday. So, time for bed. Just wanted to let you know. what happened. Once again you guys saved the day. Thanks for the advice. [/QUOTE]
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