hugs. I am sorry you have to go through all this, as well as boo. I get so angry when people, especially health care workers, think that just because someone has a disabilty they are not cognitively with it. An a hospital not having a g tube?? Unless Boo has a really unique one, I would think they have them, the staff on the floor just don't know where to get one and don't want to be bothered with it. Bet they have them in the OR.
Here's hoping your household will settle down.