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<blockquote data-quote="smallworld" data-source="post: 199892" data-attributes="member: 2423"><p>Jane Nelsen of the Positive Discipline series of books writes: "Parents often take extreme measures like spanking, grounding and other punitive solutions so their children don't grow up to be thieves. Judging and punishing kids only makes the situation worse. Any parental intervention that is punitive and only deals with the behavior and not the underlying problem makes the situation worse."</p><p> </p><p>Do you have any idea why your difficult child stole your pillbox?</p><p> </p><p>I could be wrong, but I get the sense from your post that it was less an act against you and more an act of trying to make, keep or impress friends. If that is the case, you need to help your daughter find appropriate ways to have friends (for example, invite them over for a playdate, share your toys with them, write funny notes to them, sing or tell jokes with them). She also needs to understand exactly what medicine is and why it is not safe to take it or share it with others. She really may not know this at age 6.</p><p> </p><p>Although I think apology notes are fine (along with a calm explanation to your daughter about why what she did was wrong), I'd recommend rethinking your harsh punishments. What will taking away her prized possessions and soccer for the rest of the season teach her about her faulty reasoning behind stealing your pillbox?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="smallworld, post: 199892, member: 2423"] Jane Nelsen of the Positive Discipline series of books writes: "Parents often take extreme measures like spanking, grounding and other punitive solutions so their children don't grow up to be thieves. Judging and punishing kids only makes the situation worse. Any parental intervention that is punitive and only deals with the behavior and not the underlying problem makes the situation worse." Do you have any idea why your difficult child stole your pillbox? I could be wrong, but I get the sense from your post that it was less an act against you and more an act of trying to make, keep or impress friends. If that is the case, you need to help your daughter find appropriate ways to have friends (for example, invite them over for a playdate, share your toys with them, write funny notes to them, sing or tell jokes with them). She also needs to understand exactly what medicine is and why it is not safe to take it or share it with others. She really may not know this at age 6. Although I think apology notes are fine (along with a calm explanation to your daughter about why what she did was wrong), I'd recommend rethinking your harsh punishments. What will taking away her prized possessions and soccer for the rest of the season teach her about her faulty reasoning behind stealing your pillbox? [/QUOTE]
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