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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 199932" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>You handled this very well. Like the others said she is very young to really understand the danger she may have put the other kids (and herself) in. I would have a stern talk to her and explain that people get very very sick when they take other people's medicine. She can not do this again. </p><p> </p><p>I hope husband doesn't take away soceer. Our kids need these activities for so many reasons, exercise, socializing, ect.</p><p> </p><p>I think our difficult children struggle so much and every time they receive negative feedback, it just shoots them down that much further. They soon start feeling hopeless, that they will never do anything right. If we can reach them on their level and show them that we are trying to teach them to be safe, it would go much further than punishing through the loss of possessions and activities.</p><p> </p><p>"difficult child, I know you do not want to hurt anyone. You are a very kind person. Did you know that whenever you give anyone medicine that the doctor has not told them to take that they can get sick? We are so lucky those girls didn't get sick from my medicine. Next time they might though. So, it is very important that you don't give medicine to anyone. It is also important that you don't take medicine from anyone but me or a teacher that I have given your medicine to."</p><p> </p><p>I am so happy to hear that the school was realistic about this. You hear of so many little kids getting suspended for such acts instead of teaching them in a stern yet kind way why they were wrong. Our kids are kids - they have so much to learn and some will learn every step the hard way. Each angry response they get lowers their self esteem. They need to know that while they did wrong, they are human and can make better choices for a happier future.</p><p> </p><p>You also have to trust in your decision on how to further handle this. You know your child better than anyone else. Don't let anyone judge that you are either too hard or too soft (the other parents of the other girls may think you are too soft). Do what you believe in your heart is correct. I for one will let you do your job as mom.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 199932, member: 5096"] You handled this very well. Like the others said she is very young to really understand the danger she may have put the other kids (and herself) in. I would have a stern talk to her and explain that people get very very sick when they take other people's medicine. She can not do this again. I hope husband doesn't take away soceer. Our kids need these activities for so many reasons, exercise, socializing, ect. I think our difficult children struggle so much and every time they receive negative feedback, it just shoots them down that much further. They soon start feeling hopeless, that they will never do anything right. If we can reach them on their level and show them that we are trying to teach them to be safe, it would go much further than punishing through the loss of possessions and activities. "difficult child, I know you do not want to hurt anyone. You are a very kind person. Did you know that whenever you give anyone medicine that the doctor has not told them to take that they can get sick? We are so lucky those girls didn't get sick from my medicine. Next time they might though. So, it is very important that you don't give medicine to anyone. It is also important that you don't take medicine from anyone but me or a teacher that I have given your medicine to." I am so happy to hear that the school was realistic about this. You hear of so many little kids getting suspended for such acts instead of teaching them in a stern yet kind way why they were wrong. Our kids are kids - they have so much to learn and some will learn every step the hard way. Each angry response they get lowers their self esteem. They need to know that while they did wrong, they are human and can make better choices for a happier future. You also have to trust in your decision on how to further handle this. You know your child better than anyone else. Don't let anyone judge that you are either too hard or too soft (the other parents of the other girls may think you are too soft). Do what you believe in your heart is correct. I for one will let you do your job as mom. [/QUOTE]
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