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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 173549" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Susan</p><p> </p><p>My best friend is an addict. She moved from alcohol to prescription narcatics and psychiatric medications. When that wasn't enough, she progressed to heorine. It has been horrible to watch this once bright, funny, intelligent woman turn into a person who only cares about her next fix.</p><p> </p><p>She's not what typically comes to mind when you think of a heroine addict. Not yet, anyway.</p><p> </p><p>She's called me telling me her kids were starving. I took them some spare food from my pantry. I did this a couple of times believing it was ok because I wasn't giving her money. Then it hit me. If I was her safety net to feed her kids when she blew all her money for drugs, what difference did it make? I was still helping her to buy them.</p><p> </p><p>The last 2 times she's called to tell me they're starving I've said I'm sorry but I can't help you. Followed by if you don't spend all your money on drugs there would be plenty for food.</p><p> </p><p>She called me begging for 20.00 for gas to get to work. My answer was No. </p><p> </p><p>It was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do.</p><p> </p><p>This woman is my best friend. I love her like a sister. Once we were very very close. Now the drug and her next fix is the center of her universe. Her husband doesn't matter. Her kids don't matter. (except superficially) And I don't matter. Just getting the next dose of that drug. And if she can't get heroine, then how to get something that is close. She will do anything, say anything to appease those around her. It doesn't matter if she lies, because the drug is all that matters. She will tell you exactly what you want to hear, while doing exactly what she wants to do. Because the drug is the center of her universe. You mean nothing.</p><p> </p><p>This is how an addict thinks while the drug has them in their grip. It's hard for us to get that because we know the person who came before the addict.</p><p> </p><p>Twice now she has supposedly attempted to come off the herione. No go. She might have stopped herione, but smoking pot and chomping down vicodin and percocets by the handful is still using.</p><p> </p><p>I won't fall for it again.</p><p> </p><p>I don't call her anymore. I do answer when she calls. (there is always that faint hope) But I let 90 percent of what she says run straight thru. Until she is clean and sober, she is not the person I used to know as my best friend. She is an addict.</p><p> </p><p>You need to practice telling your son No. Stand in front of a mirror if you have to. But No is the only way you can help him. When I read your post, even I got the impression you might consider letting him return home. Yes, I know you put limits on that. But you have to remember, an addict will do anything, say anything to get what they want.</p><p> </p><p>He won't understand while he's an addict. But when he's clean and sober, he will.</p><p> </p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 173549, member: 84"] Susan My best friend is an addict. She moved from alcohol to prescription narcatics and psychiatric medications. When that wasn't enough, she progressed to heorine. It has been horrible to watch this once bright, funny, intelligent woman turn into a person who only cares about her next fix. She's not what typically comes to mind when you think of a heroine addict. Not yet, anyway. She's called me telling me her kids were starving. I took them some spare food from my pantry. I did this a couple of times believing it was ok because I wasn't giving her money. Then it hit me. If I was her safety net to feed her kids when she blew all her money for drugs, what difference did it make? I was still helping her to buy them. The last 2 times she's called to tell me they're starving I've said I'm sorry but I can't help you. Followed by if you don't spend all your money on drugs there would be plenty for food. She called me begging for 20.00 for gas to get to work. My answer was No. It was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. This woman is my best friend. I love her like a sister. Once we were very very close. Now the drug and her next fix is the center of her universe. Her husband doesn't matter. Her kids don't matter. (except superficially) And I don't matter. Just getting the next dose of that drug. And if she can't get heroine, then how to get something that is close. She will do anything, say anything to appease those around her. It doesn't matter if she lies, because the drug is all that matters. She will tell you exactly what you want to hear, while doing exactly what she wants to do. Because the drug is the center of her universe. You mean nothing. This is how an addict thinks while the drug has them in their grip. It's hard for us to get that because we know the person who came before the addict. Twice now she has supposedly attempted to come off the herione. No go. She might have stopped herione, but smoking pot and chomping down vicodin and percocets by the handful is still using. I won't fall for it again. I don't call her anymore. I do answer when she calls. (there is always that faint hope) But I let 90 percent of what she says run straight thru. Until she is clean and sober, she is not the person I used to know as my best friend. She is an addict. You need to practice telling your son No. Stand in front of a mirror if you have to. But No is the only way you can help him. When I read your post, even I got the impression you might consider letting him return home. Yes, I know you put limits on that. But you have to remember, an addict will do anything, say anything to get what they want. He won't understand while he's an addict. But when he's clean and sober, he will. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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