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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 516554" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>DF has some really good ideas. I get trapped in this once in a while but mostly I just wont engage in what we call here "nonsense" talk. when he tries to negotiate and is saying you should give me this or that because I deserve it.... or I have tried enough etc.</p><p></p><p>I dont ask or tell him what to do. I self narrate. Gosh, if I wanted my mom to do something for me, I would say "please mom may I earn some time to watch NASCAR this weekend?" and then I keep doing what I am doing. </p><p></p><p>If he yells that I am ignoring him and he is only going on and on with insults, threats, demands... I just remind him I dont respond to nonsense talk. </p><p></p><p>Sometimes I say something like... What a bummer to lose a chance for X today. I sure wished we could do that. Well, maybe tomorrow there will be kind words.</p><p></p><p>I rarely direct it to him straight on. </p><p></p><p>Dont know if that would help but maybe???</p><p></p><p>I can really relate to this so much. I dont have to worry about another kid though, that has to be so very hard. </p><p></p><p>If Q wants to go outside to be with friends, I do have a rule that if he can't show me nice words then for sure I can't take the risk that he might say mean words to other people. He has to show me he is in a good place before he can go anywhere, even if that means sitting in for a couple of hours.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 516554, member: 12886"] DF has some really good ideas. I get trapped in this once in a while but mostly I just wont engage in what we call here "nonsense" talk. when he tries to negotiate and is saying you should give me this or that because I deserve it.... or I have tried enough etc. I dont ask or tell him what to do. I self narrate. Gosh, if I wanted my mom to do something for me, I would say "please mom may I earn some time to watch NASCAR this weekend?" and then I keep doing what I am doing. If he yells that I am ignoring him and he is only going on and on with insults, threats, demands... I just remind him I dont respond to nonsense talk. Sometimes I say something like... What a bummer to lose a chance for X today. I sure wished we could do that. Well, maybe tomorrow there will be kind words. I rarely direct it to him straight on. Dont know if that would help but maybe??? I can really relate to this so much. I dont have to worry about another kid though, that has to be so very hard. If Q wants to go outside to be with friends, I do have a rule that if he can't show me nice words then for sure I can't take the risk that he might say mean words to other people. He has to show me he is in a good place before he can go anywhere, even if that means sitting in for a couple of hours. [/QUOTE]
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