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<blockquote data-quote="Bunny" data-source="post: 516573"><p>Thank you. I know that you're all right, and I do try very hard to walk away from him, but he follows me, screaming all the way. Even yesterday I kept telling him to leave me alone so that I could calm down and think clearly. He kept telling me, "No!! I want an answer RIGHT NOW!! What are you going to do FOR ME??" And before I had to get easy child off the school bus I just sat on the couch, working on my neeldework, telling him that I was taking easy child to the park and that even if he conviced easy child not to go, difficult child was not having his friend come over. I would, at times, sit there, just working on that pillow, hoping that he would leave me the heck alone. And if I try to go to my bedroom he chases me up the stairs and hold the door handle so that I can't lock it. </p><p></p><p>Later, after everyone had cooled off, I asked him if he thought that letting me calm down so that I could get a clear thought into my head might have been a better course of action. Did he think that it might have prevented things from spinning out of control the way that they did? </p><p></p><p>His answer? </p><p></p><p>No! He's going to keep going after me until he hears what he wants to hear. I got so annoyed that I said, "I don't know why I even bothered to ask. I should have known better," and I walked back downstairs. Then he got mad because he upset me again. Well, genius, maybe if you would just listen to reason every now and then you would not find yourself in the messes that you always seem to find yourself in. </p><p></p><p>To be honest, him walking out the door is not really an issue for me. He goes out, takes a walk and has a chance to clear his head, and (usually) comes back and is willing and able to talk calmy. Most of the time he heads over the my in-laws' house, so I'll call her to let her know that he might be on his way there and she keeps a look out for him. Yesterday, though, he walked paster her house and further on up the block . Then a little while later she called me to say that she just looked out the window and that difficult child was headng back down towards my house, so I knew he was coming when I let easy child out into the back yard to play.</p><p></p><p>As for doing something for me today, I am waiting for father in law's cousin to drop off his tax return information. Tonight is my stitch night at the needelwork shop that I go to, so I am out the door at 5:45 pm and I am leaving the kids to my in-laws and my husband. I am going to buy a birthday cake for the friend that I go to the shop with because tomorrow is her birthday and I thought it would be nice to get her a cake. By the time I get home the kiddies will be in bed and fast asleep. Usually on stitch nights I cook something nice because husband is not home when we eat, but I am not cooking for him tonight. It's leftover night! One less thing for me to think about.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for all the support. It's just the bad night rolling into a bad morning is enough to drive me insane.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bunny, post: 516573"] Thank you. I know that you're all right, and I do try very hard to walk away from him, but he follows me, screaming all the way. Even yesterday I kept telling him to leave me alone so that I could calm down and think clearly. He kept telling me, "No!! I want an answer RIGHT NOW!! What are you going to do FOR ME??" And before I had to get easy child off the school bus I just sat on the couch, working on my neeldework, telling him that I was taking easy child to the park and that even if he conviced easy child not to go, difficult child was not having his friend come over. I would, at times, sit there, just working on that pillow, hoping that he would leave me the heck alone. And if I try to go to my bedroom he chases me up the stairs and hold the door handle so that I can't lock it. Later, after everyone had cooled off, I asked him if he thought that letting me calm down so that I could get a clear thought into my head might have been a better course of action. Did he think that it might have prevented things from spinning out of control the way that they did? His answer? No! He's going to keep going after me until he hears what he wants to hear. I got so annoyed that I said, "I don't know why I even bothered to ask. I should have known better," and I walked back downstairs. Then he got mad because he upset me again. Well, genius, maybe if you would just listen to reason every now and then you would not find yourself in the messes that you always seem to find yourself in. To be honest, him walking out the door is not really an issue for me. He goes out, takes a walk and has a chance to clear his head, and (usually) comes back and is willing and able to talk calmy. Most of the time he heads over the my in-laws' house, so I'll call her to let her know that he might be on his way there and she keeps a look out for him. Yesterday, though, he walked paster her house and further on up the block . Then a little while later she called me to say that she just looked out the window and that difficult child was headng back down towards my house, so I knew he was coming when I let easy child out into the back yard to play. As for doing something for me today, I am waiting for father in law's cousin to drop off his tax return information. Tonight is my stitch night at the needelwork shop that I go to, so I am out the door at 5:45 pm and I am leaving the kids to my in-laws and my husband. I am going to buy a birthday cake for the friend that I go to the shop with because tomorrow is her birthday and I thought it would be nice to get her a cake. By the time I get home the kiddies will be in bed and fast asleep. Usually on stitch nights I cook something nice because husband is not home when we eat, but I am not cooking for him tonight. It's leftover night! One less thing for me to think about. Thank you for all the support. It's just the bad night rolling into a bad morning is enough to drive me insane. [/QUOTE]
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