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<blockquote data-quote="WSM" data-source="post: 258842" data-attributes="member: 5169"><p>OMG, I'm so sorry. Sometimes I think this is harder on you than her. At least (I'm so sorry to say this), but at least she has her angel dust to escape into. </p><p> </p><p>I can only imagine what you are going thru, but you asked can she overcome being raped as well as prostituting herself. Yes.</p><p> </p><p>There are lots of stories about this, Maya Angelou is one. Oprah Winfrey is another (Oprah did not prostitute, but did get raped. Maya was a prostitute).</p><p> </p><p>Also, I know of another. My stepkids Biomom, I'll call Karin. Karin is bipolar II and probably also schizophrenic. In any case she lives in psychosis for about 10 months of the year. Drugs help, she won't comply. </p><p> </p><p>Her rock bottom was this: it was about 2002 and she was 6 months pregnant, didn't know how, in psychosis, wandering the streets, shouting at god. Yes, this well educated nurse, daughter of an Ivy League literature professor, who grew up upper middle class was dumpster diving for dinner. </p><p> </p><p>She went into 7-11 and the counter lady saw blood gushing out between her legs. Karin was oblivious. The lady called 911 and Karin was minutes from delivering a stillborn. She was taken to the hospital, stablized and put into a psychiatric ward for about 2 months.</p><p> </p><p>Released her into a halfway house, she had appropriate support, she got a parttime job and of course stopped taking medications. Got sick again. Was wandering the street at 2 or 3 at night looking for cigarettes (she was the type who if driving while in psychosis would just stop the car on the freeway, get out and wander away leaving it there). </p><p> </p><p>Three guys came up to her. They raped and beat her and were going to beat her to death, except one guy thought better of it and persuaded the others to leave. She was found by passersby and taken to the hospital.</p><p> </p><p>She has absolutely no memory, shame or emotional problems connected with these incidents. I think I am more scarred by them just hearing about them years later than she is.</p><p> </p><p>This time the hospital released her to a county mental health program that is absolutely a leader in the country (we've tried to get difficult child in, since this is his mom, and we saw what they did for her, and figured they'd have special insight on how to treat him. But they will only take people one Medicaid and we have insurance and a good income. They would <em>not even recommend someone</em> for us).</p><p> </p><p>Anyway, this program stabilized her, got her SSDI, got guardianship over her (so they got her SSDI money), put her into an subsidized apartment with a roommate, helped her buy a car and get utilities turned on, helped her cleaned up her legal problems (special mental health courts), put her on a therapy schedule, both group and individual, and gave her a schedule to come in once a week for her medications/shots that kept her stable. After she got her shots and did her two therapy groups a week, she got one fourth of her SSDI money. Handed it out right there. No compliance, no cash. No cash, no cigarettes and food. </p><p> </p><p>She <strong><u>HATED </u></strong>it. But she complied. And she thrived. Who cared if she groused. She became healthy, she got a parttime job to supplement the SSDI, she started dating, she got to see her kids every weekend and every other weekend after six months of compliance she got an unsupervised overnight (it wasn't optimal from where we stood, we heard stories that curled our hair, like the six year old carrying the water that was used to boil eggs from the stove to the sink to drain...but...well, we had little choice...). Her parents came down and they did a nice Xmas in their timeshare, she flew up to visit with her sister.</p><p> </p><p>Her life wasn't wonderful, but it was good and had good parts in it, and could have been satisfactory. The rape and the miscarriage and the unexplained pregnacy (which she did remember) never ever bothered her. </p><p> </p><p>I wonder if in B's case, the angel dust will have the same effect as the psychosis had on Karin; whenshe gets out of that life, it will not be remembered or will seem as tho it happened to someone else. </p><p> </p><p>Think back to your college days; for me, I know I barely recognized the person I was, so different from me now.</p><p> </p><p>There are actually a lot of professionals who do know how to help get runaways back into society, gang members to go straight, drug addicts to live clean, and prostitutes back into the mainstream--if they want to. The help will be there when she's willing to do the work, and they've met this issue before.</p><p> </p><p>And there are programs that can help the most hardcore hopeless. You'd think Karin was hardcore hopeless, but this program worked for two years. <strong>I am bitterly disappointed we can't get them to help with her son, our difficult child.</strong> They would if he were on Medicaid... We are so frustrated, someday difficult child will be in that program I'm sure, when he's 18 and forced out of the house...but why should it be done the hard way and 10 years after we know their help is needed.</p><p> </p><p>After two years everyone is in that program is moved off Medicaid and onto Medicare and have to leave the program. Karin fell apart and is back into the cycle of homelessness, psychosis, hospitalization, brief rehab, relapse, homelessness...</p><p> </p><p>But the point is, there is help somewhere and she does not necessarily have to be scarred. Her experience might be so surreal, the brain protects itself and cannot compute it. And the point is there are programs...just not enough. But they exist and there is help.</p><p> </p><p>Many hugs to you. Many, many, hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WSM, post: 258842, member: 5169"] OMG, I'm so sorry. Sometimes I think this is harder on you than her. At least (I'm so sorry to say this), but at least she has her angel dust to escape into. I can only imagine what you are going thru, but you asked can she overcome being raped as well as prostituting herself. Yes. There are lots of stories about this, Maya Angelou is one. Oprah Winfrey is another (Oprah did not prostitute, but did get raped. Maya was a prostitute). Also, I know of another. My stepkids Biomom, I'll call Karin. Karin is bipolar II and probably also schizophrenic. In any case she lives in psychosis for about 10 months of the year. Drugs help, she won't comply. Her rock bottom was this: it was about 2002 and she was 6 months pregnant, didn't know how, in psychosis, wandering the streets, shouting at god. Yes, this well educated nurse, daughter of an Ivy League literature professor, who grew up upper middle class was dumpster diving for dinner. She went into 7-11 and the counter lady saw blood gushing out between her legs. Karin was oblivious. The lady called 911 and Karin was minutes from delivering a stillborn. She was taken to the hospital, stablized and put into a psychiatric ward for about 2 months. Released her into a halfway house, she had appropriate support, she got a parttime job and of course stopped taking medications. Got sick again. Was wandering the street at 2 or 3 at night looking for cigarettes (she was the type who if driving while in psychosis would just stop the car on the freeway, get out and wander away leaving it there). Three guys came up to her. They raped and beat her and were going to beat her to death, except one guy thought better of it and persuaded the others to leave. She was found by passersby and taken to the hospital. She has absolutely no memory, shame or emotional problems connected with these incidents. I think I am more scarred by them just hearing about them years later than she is. This time the hospital released her to a county mental health program that is absolutely a leader in the country (we've tried to get difficult child in, since this is his mom, and we saw what they did for her, and figured they'd have special insight on how to treat him. But they will only take people one Medicaid and we have insurance and a good income. They would [I]not even recommend someone[/I] for us). Anyway, this program stabilized her, got her SSDI, got guardianship over her (so they got her SSDI money), put her into an subsidized apartment with a roommate, helped her buy a car and get utilities turned on, helped her cleaned up her legal problems (special mental health courts), put her on a therapy schedule, both group and individual, and gave her a schedule to come in once a week for her medications/shots that kept her stable. After she got her shots and did her two therapy groups a week, she got one fourth of her SSDI money. Handed it out right there. No compliance, no cash. No cash, no cigarettes and food. She [B][U]HATED [/U][/B]it. But she complied. And she thrived. Who cared if she groused. She became healthy, she got a parttime job to supplement the SSDI, she started dating, she got to see her kids every weekend and every other weekend after six months of compliance she got an unsupervised overnight (it wasn't optimal from where we stood, we heard stories that curled our hair, like the six year old carrying the water that was used to boil eggs from the stove to the sink to drain...but...well, we had little choice...). Her parents came down and they did a nice Xmas in their timeshare, she flew up to visit with her sister. Her life wasn't wonderful, but it was good and had good parts in it, and could have been satisfactory. The rape and the miscarriage and the unexplained pregnacy (which she did remember) never ever bothered her. I wonder if in B's case, the angel dust will have the same effect as the psychosis had on Karin; whenshe gets out of that life, it will not be remembered or will seem as tho it happened to someone else. Think back to your college days; for me, I know I barely recognized the person I was, so different from me now. There are actually a lot of professionals who do know how to help get runaways back into society, gang members to go straight, drug addicts to live clean, and prostitutes back into the mainstream--if they want to. The help will be there when she's willing to do the work, and they've met this issue before. And there are programs that can help the most hardcore hopeless. You'd think Karin was hardcore hopeless, but this program worked for two years. [B]I am bitterly disappointed we can't get them to help with her son, our difficult child.[/B] They would if he were on Medicaid... We are so frustrated, someday difficult child will be in that program I'm sure, when he's 18 and forced out of the house...but why should it be done the hard way and 10 years after we know their help is needed. After two years everyone is in that program is moved off Medicaid and onto Medicare and have to leave the program. Karin fell apart and is back into the cycle of homelessness, psychosis, hospitalization, brief rehab, relapse, homelessness... But the point is, there is help somewhere and she does not necessarily have to be scarred. Her experience might be so surreal, the brain protects itself and cannot compute it. And the point is there are programs...just not enough. But they exist and there is help. Many hugs to you. Many, many, hugs. [/QUOTE]
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